Married 8yrs.seperated for 16 months, divorced for 2 months already. Had been seeing each other throughout the whole thing on and off. We both agree we loved each other neither were willing to "change".Not anymore than we already had. In court you would of thought they were handing me down my death sentence! He promised me we'd work things out and everything would ok. He told me 7 weeks ago that he felt we should go our seperate ways. I figured he was mad about something and needed a few days so I said fine. I let it ride for 4 long weeks, then I broke down and emailed him. He informed me that he was in love with someone else, and that all we had together was a great sex life. Ive been devistated ever since, which brought me here. In the last ten days we have been in contact, thru email. He had quit his job and got a new one, he was keeping me informed mostly because my support will be affected. He wrote in one of his letters that I am and always will be the love of his life, and that the grass is no greener on the other side. I had no response. He wrote again and let me know that he will be throwing himself into work,this way it will make it easier for him to dump the new gf. He says theres no sparks, not like ours. And he cant start something new when he still is in love with me. I asked myself a million times what I'd do in the situation of him wanting to get back together I just dont know whats right, because for the last 9 yrs Ive been totally blinded by love, and still am. I want this so much but dont know if its right. How do you know when its really worth it??? Please HELP!