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Ryan's decided to move out.... So to save me the heartache of him rummaging through all "our" things and separating them. I've spent all my spare time this week doing it for him. But the weird thing is I can't help nicely putting all his stuff aside and folding his clothes. My friends think I being WAY to nice. I can't help it it's just me I'd feel bad if I through them(clothes) in a heap. Thou last night I think I did take it too far when I caught myself scrubbing HIS microwave. I get compulsive when I'm stressed and have a tendency to clean the hell out of things. So what do you think too nice or crazy? Don't be afraid to offend me I wouldn't ask if I didn't want advice.
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It would send the wrong message to them and myself. I think giving them space and a reasonable amount of time to move their things out is enough of a high road.
Serving them after they leave you especially if there was negativity that caused the break up, would put me beneath them mentally. Like I was a servant or something. Not that it's true for this case it's just how I would feel if it was me.
There are so many other things you can do to heal yourself....if packing his things is one of them then do it.
He was shocked, said he thought I would put his stuff in the driveway and burn it. He is the one who left and is immature. I told him that after 20 years, he really didn't know me very well after all.
Someone else posted, it is okay as long as you aren't doing it for the wrong reasons. It was hard to do. It was a step in saying good by, It was proving that I am the better person. It was NOT I can't get along in life without you.
You are going to be find. Keep plowing though the steps that are necessary to recover.
Take care. HUGS!
On the flip side, when I split with my ex about 3 years ago it got nasty and he was stealing things from me and doing a lot of other crap and I wasn't so nice, in fact, I threw all his clothes (which I purchased) in teh dumpster and he had to dive to get them.I did that out of angry, frustration and from being hurt.
We all deal with our pain in our own ways. Instead of me showing him what he lost, I chose to let him leave with nothing on his back mainly because he had nothing when he walked into my home. He used me for 3 years, and I couldn't let him get away with what he did to me.
I don't think your crazy, I just think you are a good person.
So...no...you are not crazy. Maybe a little too nice.