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In my marriage there is a lot of issues. One is that there has been physical abuse between my husband and I both. The first instance started as a drunken argument. My husband was in my face screaming and telling me to hit him, along with other hateful comments. Unfortunately I did. He ended up with a headache and I, a black eye. The next following days we made up. A few weeks past, and we got into another argument. He left and returned home drunk. When I asked him where he was, he said nothing and started to shove me around. He pinned me down on the ground and choked me, tried to force me to kiss him, and shoved me into everything he possibly could. It took me over an hour to get away from him and out of the house. He tried to break my car windows as I drove off. When I came home the next day, he was still drunk and started to shove me again. I left and returned with someone who could monitor him packing and leaving. When he was done packing he had sobered up. He apologized and said he was reacting to our first fight where I had hit him. We made up (of course), we loved each other and knew that we wanted our relationship to work out. I became pregnant and we got married (not because of the pregnancy). When our son was about 8 months old, I busted my husband doing a drug(he used to be an addict). He was very angry as was I. The argument ended up with me losing it and hitting him repeatedly. We almost got a divorce at that point. Since this last instance he has made the comment that "I have one coming", and that I have no right to get upset if he is violent with me. We have decided to try to fix our marriage, whatever that may entail. I feel completely guilty and responsible for my actions. I know that no matter what he has done that I have no right to put my hands on him. It feels like he wants me to fail at gaining control of my actions and my anger towards him, which I need to do if we are to become a healthy married couple.
Please be honest with your responses.
Please be honest with your responses.
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You both should seek some professional help before one of you gets seriously hurt.
Good luck. This won't be easy.
run fast, and as far away as you can get.
sorry, truth
My wife would push me to hit her. She was in an abusive relationship before. I never did hit her. She did attack me 3 different times in 10 years.
It is not acceptable for anyone to strike another.
What is the point of it? Does it solve anything or cause more problems?
I would recomend some outside help.
If you really want to stay married, you will both need professional help. It sounds like he is doing things to make you initiate the violence and then using that as an excuse to be more and more violent. It does not sound like he has gotten to the extent of what he is capable of (perhaps you haven't either). How far will you both go?
Does either of you have violence in your past? What is the drug situation now?
This is way out of hand and I don't believe this can be fixed. For the sake of your child, you should get out of this right now.
You wanted honesty and that is what I think.
This isn't just about YOU. My kids have seen me knocked unconscious. Really great thing to have ingrained. One still thinks that his Dad is "The MAN". I worry about every girl he dates.
I stayed. I was Stupid and raised to keep taking it. You sound Young Enough to get some Help and Get OUT of this NOW. And also find out What is causing You to hit.
Love does Not involve Abuse.
Get some help from a battered womans group, they can give you free counseling and a plan to keep you safe. He isn't worth dying for and that environment is terrible for a child. I pray for you to find strength and say no more.