What is reasonable to ask for when wanting custody of your children. I have two, one 12 one 7. i am having trouble getting my wife to agree to having joint custody. she wants the house where they can keep their life intact for the children so that they dont loose their security of home. Of course i would like my kidds to not be uprooted and continue in there home, school, and the familiarity of what they have known. Not my wish to take this away from them . but the sad thing is , i give up all that i worked for them willingly, then ask my wife to not make me an every other weekend Dad. I would like my kids to be able to stay over durring week nights and school nights as well as trading off on weekends, and she will not agree to it. This is killing me because i want a life with them as well that will include their bedtimes, when we talk etc. I dont want to lose that type of connection with them. I am feeling like death when i imagine any other scenario. i have to be able to rebuild a new life for me with them and get over the hurt as well. she says its best for the kids and their schedule. Plus she says its too traumatic for them, what else can be traumatic after we split the family up? Am i being selfish? she says i am, and its about only what makes me feel good. I just cant imagine being that type of father so detached. Take into consideration also that i dont want the divorce, she does, i still love her, she doesnt love me. so i lose on all points with this now. All i am asking for is her to imagine what it must be like to leave your home, lose the wife you love, lose the house and all i have worked on, and with all that number one, my children are not with me. she is saying she will not sign anything that will say they get to stay over durring the week. i am willing to be flexible with it. i am dying inside over this. please send me your comments and suggestions. am i selfish for wanting this??
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