Hi, I have been separated since Jun 07. From then until late October 07, I didn't fight very hard to work on my marriage. In late October, she decided it was time for her to date. That's what prompted my epiphany. Now I know that sounds like jealousy, or something temporary, but since then I have confessed my sins, my guilt, and my professed that I would do ANYTHING to make our marriage work. We have become friends at this point, with some random sexual encounters throughout. I was an emotional cheater, but have been faithful since our separation, and consider everything as "Would I do this in front of my wife". I have re-accepted God into my life, been in counseling since late October (which she says she won't attend until she is SURE she wants to re-commit to me), eat healthier, lost 23 lbs, stopped smoking, and workout every other day. We have determined that Monday's and Wednesday's are "No See days" Which means we give each other a break from each other. I am still fighting to put our marriage together, however she says after 20 years of lies (Mainly about smoking), and emailing other women (Mainly for attention, never sexual) it takes more than 3 months to get over something like that. She also says she enjoys being single, but not for dating, however she says she hasn't made a firm decision as to whether she wants to commit to working on this. Am I being impatient? My friends tell me to back off, her friends tell her, she doesn't have to make any decisions right now. Basically I am living as a married man, as she is living as a single woman. She is not actively persuing anyone, or on any of the dating sites nor wants to sign up for any. What does this tell me? I don't know. If you have a response, I would appreciate NOT being handled with kid gloves, I am a tell it like it is guy, no matter how bleak. Thanks in advance!
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