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Am I CRAZY????????????

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The OW is trying to press charges on me for harassment. She thinks I am threating her kids. STBX told my family the the OW's mother has gotten an atty and they have already filed charges on me. I have done nothing her recently but 4-5 months back yes I did. I faxed things to their work and if I knew I could get into trouble for it I would of never did it. The only reason why I did do it was because she had just confessed she had been sleeping with my husband and was telling me how good their relationship is. Am I crazy by hating her? I know what I did was wrong, but what she did was wrong also. She has pictures on her myspace of her and my husband and in the captions it say Me & my mann and he is still married. I really feel like I am crazy because the only think I want is for them to get what is coming to them and I wrong for thinking this way?
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if you have done nothing, then you have nothing to worry about, the faxes were months ago, so you made a mistake, could be they are just trying to make you nervous. your not crazy either, your hurt and upset. don't show either of them this is upsetting you.
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I can not stand the other woman. She works in my husbands office, we all went to India together, she was my daughters and my heath provider. There is a part of me that wants to just put it all on the bulliten board at the hospital. You are not crazy, the situation we have been put in is what is crazy.
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Kelly...do you have an attorney? If so, please tell the attorney about the site on the internet regarding this OW and your stbx. Try to make copies of her site to keep, just in case. NO...you are NOT crazy. What the OW has done appears to be very hurtful. I'm so sorry;be strong!
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"I really feel like I am crazy because the only think I want is for them to get what is coming to them and I wrong for thinking this way?"

I don't think "crazy" is the word we would use. Perhaps, "misguided" is more appropriate.

The sooner you begin spending your time and energy on yourself and your own life, the better. Trying to get revenge, while understandable, is the wrong battle, wrong war, and would not likely leave you feeling very triumphant in the end. Just hollow.

There is one cliche that I still can't argue with - the best revenge is living well. Do that and let these two do whatever it is they are going to do. You have a future, so work on that.

What do you think? Is that possible?

Peace.
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Kelly, which do you want ... what is coming to them or a great life for you? A good conscience makes for a soft pillow. Is revenge one of your values? If so, you have done nothing wrong. If revenge is one of your values, have you thought how your values are serving you? What do you want to do: fixate on revenge or fixate on the new beautiful, strong you?
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