Hello to everyone, My so called dh and I have been living apart for about 10 days, Each day has been like a roller coaster to me and I would find out at times for him as well. Our children have been asking more and more questions and have made remarks , if daddy were here, See I am always the bad guy, I correct the children, I put them two steps ahead and so called dh puts them 5 steps behind and it makes it so hard and stressful on me to correct them, so when they are with or around so called dh they act out big time, and dh does nothing, He now says he will try and he will do what ever it takes to save the marriage, I told him if he would like to come to the house tonight see the kids he can sleep here , the kids are asking way too many questions and for now I want to protect them ( they think daddy is working alot and fixing up a rental his father has, the kids are used to daddy working alot) I don't want him to get the idea, ok lets try this thing out move back in and go from there, because we still need time apart, but I don't want him to think there is a chance and he can still live in the rental to clean that up ( you know have his cake and eat it too) Am I being stupid to open a door that has been shut for 10 days ? Am I wrong to think he would have his cake and eat it too by staying some place else and visit the kids when he can while I continue to do Everything ? I know I can say : look this is not an open door it is however half way opened and if you force it open it will slam shut on your face ! that is how I feel, What do you think ! We do need to be apart so he can be more involved in the kids and know that we need to seek outside help, which he agrees on. Please tell me what you think. My heart will not be broken again, the walls will be up until an prof outsider tells me otherwise and until I know when.But how do we know when to let our guard down ? I know I can't , If I did he would go back to his old self.
Posts You May Be Interested In
I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...