I just wanted to get other people's perspective on this. My ex had rearranged his custody of our three year old this weekend so that he could fly to Indiana to be with his girlfriend. We have every other week starting on Fridays after daycare. It is my scheduled week starting this Friday. We had already rearranged this week to start on Thursday after school so he could fly out to be with his girlfriend. However, with the snowstorm the airlines had told him he needed to leave Wednesday morning. Make a long story sort of short, I agreed to take our son Tuesday night. Well, I get a message from him last night that he was unable to go on his trip. Then today he calls and asks to visit with our son. OK. Sure. We have built in visitation for the other parent during the noncustodial parent's week. These days are Sun, Tues, and Thurs. Here is where I want advice, and I'm sorry this is taking so long. My ex called today and since his trip is cancelled he is now attending his father's 60th b-day on Sat and wants our son to attend. I want to say no because I am tired of rearranging my schedule to fit his but this is family. I also believe that since his father's birthday wasn't important to him, since he scheduled a trip to go see the girlfriend, why should it be impotant to me? Am I being spiteful? Well, yes. But what would you do? I haven't given him an answer yet as I wanted other people's perspective. Thanks for the help.