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My husband had been divorced about eight months before we got together. During this time, he had slept with his exwife a handful of times (after they were divorced.) He cheated with his exwife on the girlfriend that he had before me. He slept with her the weekend before I met him online. They took a bunch of sex pictures (which he told me about six weeks after we started talking online and after we had gone out on a couple of dates.) He told me that they took the pictures because it was going to be the last time they were together. He told me that he destroyed the pictures. I didn't see him destroy them, but he is generally honest - so I believe him.
Over the course of our relationship, we have had some problems with determining what is an ok relationship for them to have. I have felt there were a couple of times that they were "flirty" and there was a timeframe when they talked or saw each other everyday. They have joint custody. They have the kids half a week. My husband used to say that I was jealous and that he didn't care about her outside of the kids. Now he says that they are friends and that I am just jealous. Whenever we have a fight, he runs to her. When I asked him for a divorce, he told her within fifteen minutes (because she happened to call) I asked him to find some friends that were not part of his romantic past. Am I being reasonable or should I just get over it?
Over the course of our relationship, we have had some problems with determining what is an ok relationship for them to have. I have felt there were a couple of times that they were "flirty" and there was a timeframe when they talked or saw each other everyday. They have joint custody. They have the kids half a week. My husband used to say that I was jealous and that he didn't care about her outside of the kids. Now he says that they are friends and that I am just jealous. Whenever we have a fight, he runs to her. When I asked him for a divorce, he told her within fifteen minutes (because she happened to call) I asked him to find some friends that were not part of his romantic past. Am I being reasonable or should I just get over it?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
He does have to keep in contact with the mother of his childen but he does need to do it i a way that his wife is not viewed as an outsider in her own marriage.
If he confides in her more than you there may be something brewing. I thinks it's great that they are friends and they should get along for their children
But you are his wife now not just some girlfriend or lady he is seeing. He made a commitment to you and he needs to honor it.
Someone's getting the attention, affection and emotions that -you- should be getting.
Yeah, I'd be jealous, too.
But that doesn't make you unreasonable necessarily.
my opinion anyway.
I don't believe you are being unreasonalbe or jealous. My ex maintained relationships with several old friends and acquaintances. I later learned that several of these acquaintances were men she had slept with and there is at least one that I know of that she spent the night with while we were still married. Listen to your gut and don't put up with his crap.
I say be warned. No one can decide but you if this is reasonable. Your thoughts and feelings are valid, and if he doens't think they're reasonable it probably isn't healthy.
I just got so tired of my exboyfriend blaming my feelings on being "jealous" instead at looking at what he is doing that is not being straight with me and is not healthy for us. The more I shared with him these deeper thoughts the more he hid and lied and it was our undoing.
Trust is important. Sounds like you are questioning trust. Trust is a basic thing in a relationship that needs to be primary before anything else can be dealt with. Not the wisest thing to trust a cheater who hasn't dealt with it.
Anyway these are just my thoughts what I read brought up for me. Very heavy stuff for me! Hoping you handle it in a way YOU find acceptable.