My husband had been divorced about eight months before we got together. During this time, he had slept with his exwife a handful of times (after they were divorced.) He cheated with his exwife on the girlfriend that he had before me. He slept with her the weekend before I met him online. They took a bunch of sex pictures (which he told me about six weeks after we started talking online and after we had gone out on a couple of dates.) He told me that they took the pictures because it was going to be the last time they were together. He told me that he destroyed the pictures. I didn't see him destroy them, but he is generally honest - so I believe him.

Over the course of our relationship, we have had some problems with determining what is an ok relationship for them to have. I have felt there were a couple of times that they were "flirty" and there was a timeframe when they talked or saw each other everyday. They have joint custody. They have the kids half a week. My husband used to say that I was jealous and that he didn't care about her outside of the kids. Now he says that they are friends and that I am just jealous. Whenever we have a fight, he runs to her. When I asked him for a divorce, he told her within fifteen minutes (because she happened to call) I asked him to find some friends that were not part of his romantic past. Am I being reasonable or should I just get over it?