Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I went into my marriage knowing my wife had depression. Out of love and compassion, I wanted to be her hero, and for a time it worked. She was my best friend and lover, and she was happy. It turned out to be bipolar, and I did my best, through many hospitalizations and suicide attempts, to recover and rescue my best friend and lover. Having been locked in the basement, accused of things I did not do, after hearing my daughter scream when she found her mother nearly dead, the day before leaving for college, and after many other nightmarish events, I have decided I need to leave. It is tragic. For better or worse? I think that really means as long as worse is not all of the time. It turns out I am no hero, and instead feel I am the loneliest man alive, while being married. Does God expect me to give up all of myself for the survival of a marriage? I have decided to keep her on my health plan for about a year prior to actual divorce, so that she can get her life together. Am I bailing or am I rescuing myself?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Since you mentioned God, I wonder if you have sought help from the clergy? It would be great if there was someone in the church who has dealt with this. Perhaps they even have or know of support groups.
I hope all turns out well for you in the end. I wish I had better advice to offer..
I finally came to the conclusion, that while he may have been the captain of our ship, it was he who was sinking it and I couldn't see any point in both of us drowning. I decided the only way I could be of any help to him was if I got healthy.
This was after years of my begging him to get therapy, some marriage counseling (w/me willing & him showing up but putting in no effort), putting myself thru the degradation of his rehab - they almost killed what self esteem I had left - to this day I have no idea how I survived.
I kept telling myself that if he had cancer I wouldn't leave him. I spoke with pastors, I prayed and never thought I heard an answer. I think that's what happens when you lose yourself.
Of course, I don't know your story or what you have tried, and I would never presume to tell you what to do. I certainly don't understand bi-polar. All I know is that if we lose ourselves, we can't be anybody's hero and we can't help anyone else until we help ourselves.
My 2 cents is that I think you are rescuing yourself. We never know what the future will bring, but if you aren't healthy, it won't be much of a future. You need to take care of yourself for your children and (future) grandchildren.
Hugs!