Good day to all, those of you that know me know what is going on for those that don't here is the short story. My husband and I split living apart for about two weeks, that was a week and a half ago, then he said he wants to try to make it work, he will put our family first and he loves me, blah blah blah. I gave him a chance however, I still have my wall up that is stronger now than ever, He is not the type to cheat he is however the type to lie , Since he has been home he has done nothing for me, I am not talking about doing the dishes or helping out with the kids, I think he should do that anyways, I am talking about buying me flowers. A nice card. Write little notes to say how he feels. Call to see how I am. Leave work early to come home and give me a break from the kids. Bring dinner home once. Those kind of things, This morning I was out of coffee, and that was it for me ! I said to myself he does nothing for me, I bought him a nice body spray that he likes, had taken care of all his accounting papers for his accountant. He knew we were out of coffee and with a 10 yr old and 7 yr old it is not like I can say, Lets get in the van guys to go get coffee. He did not catch on, I think he has grown back into his old routine. I know men are not perfect , but when you are working on a marriage you do what ever you have to do to show that you love that person and you will not let them down, I am starting to regret letting him back, Every time he screws up that makes my wall taller and stronger and he does not get that and I have told him that. Am I expecting too much for him to do things for me, not the house not our children not anything but me, I think cleaning the cat box and loading the dishwasher and doing laundry are things he should do anyways, Once he said he wants to work it out and loves me, I say that is BS he just wanted to have his nice nest back, What do I do ! I should not have to tell him I want flowers from time to time and the other things, gosh we have been married for 17 freaking years he should know what I like, HELLO ! get a clue ! Ok if it were you what would you do ? Thanks so much .
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