
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
If all those things have been done, then you need to muster up the courage and do what is best for you. Good luck.
Support here on BU/D is great.
You were not stupid, you want love. That isn't stupid that is human. It takes many people more than one try to get a break up to "stick". It is hard.
You really need to consider individual counseling to help you with your self-esteem issues.
I don't think you love this person as much as your fear being alone. Sometimes we will put up with a lot of crap because we don't want to be alone. This could be the underlying reason why you are taking him back.
You are not stupid and you are not weak. You just need to get your head in the right place so you can do this. PLease consider seeing a counselor. I do and it helps me alot.
Hugs!!!
You asked, "So how long do I allow myself to be this stupid?" The answer is... until you've finally had enough.
I know, because I was "stupid" too. And the biggest regret I have (other than letting him in my life in the first place) was that I let it go on for as long as it did. It's funny though... at the time, I couldn't seem to get myself out of the relationship for some reason. I can't explain that. But it must be something like how addicts know what they're doing to themselves is bad, but they can't stop until they hit "rock bottom".
Just think how much better it would be for you to help yourself BEFORE you let yourself reach "rock bottom".
AGAIN thank you all for your support.
It's me Oldbiker. Don't be too hard on yourself. We all have setbacks and make decisions that hurt us. You are not stupid, you just have a yearning in your heart to be loved and accepted. Please message me and I will comment further.
Your friend.
Oldbiker