Crazy isn't it?
Remember, this is just a proposal.

Feel your pain brother. Check this one out.

I offered to pay the mortgage while my wife and kids stay in the house until the youngest graduates high school (5 years) and I told her she could have all the furniture, art and electronics in the house. She responded that she wanted me to GIVE her the house.

She also wants to own my life insurance policy, give her $4000 per month in spousal support, provide all health insurance, pay for both girls college and cars when they each turn 16 AND (this is my favorite), she is not required to get a full-time job for at least ten years.

Wanna trade?

I would have been happy if my stbx had offered even 1/3 of what ya'll did. Those women are nuts for asking for so much. But that's just my opinion.

Holy cow Harley!!!! Is there anything she doesn't want?!?! OMG!! $4,000 a month??? WOW!!

She can ASK for anything she wants. All part of the bullshit game. Get a good lawyer. Reinforce to her that the more quickly you can arrive at a fair and reasonable solution, the less money goes to the lawyers and the more quickly you can both move on with your lives.

Pennsylvania is a no-fault state. It'll be 50/50 on the assets and debts, and up to 40% of your net income for child and spousal support, typically for a period of 1/2 the term of the marriage (child support 'til 18). If she's working or can work, the spousal support may be reduced or granted for less time, depending on her income and capacity to earn.

you guys are funny!! :)

Sometimes their new S.O. are users and losers and they egg on these women (and men) to go after their ex-spouses for money. I don't know how many cases I've seen where they will purposely stay single so they can keep soaking their ex for spousal support.

AmiD - she didn't seem too interested in the vacuum cleaner. Not suprising though... she never did figure out how to use the damn thing!

She is simply shooting for the moon. Counter with a equally ridiculous offer. Don't show what you are willing to give too early, it's just like any other negotiation. Hey, have fun with it. Just like buying a car, keep on haggling, the only difference is you get to sit in your house / lawyers office to do it.

BC - Good idea - next time I see her I'll offer her the moon. In fact, I'll be happy to show it to her!

My counter offer is court-ordered minimum child support and spousal support and the immediate sale of the house with an equal split of all marital assets and liabilities.

I'm betting she goes with what's behind curtain number 1.

The only thing I got was child support and half the furniture!!!

I can't comment because I don't have all the info, i.e. what you earn, what earns, who left whom etc...I have to say that him leaving me, left me with a lot of pain and suffering. He even says I'm a great wife and mother. It is a proposal, so that may mean some room for negotiation. But those of you who know what I am talking about, when your whole world is turned upside down, emotionally, you try to "gain courage to change the things you can change" or control the things that you can control. So maybe money or real estate, tangibles, are still things that you can control. But how someone feels about you, that's one of those things where you need strength, because you can't control it. Some people who are hurt by the split, seek refuge, maybe even a little vengeance in the financial side of things. This is one area that can be used as a weapon or a tool, depending upon how you go about it.

I got he kids, I wanted them he didn't. He also knew that was the only thing I would have fought tooth and nail for.I got child support and even though I didn't ask for it I got spousal support. His Dad was the one that pushed for that. We had agreed when I was first pregnant that I would be a stay at home mom. He is navy and with him being gone so much we wanted to give the kids all the stability we could. I n Canada spousal support can last indefinitly. Unless I remarry. I have attached his pension though. I figure I put up with all his crap for 18yrs of marriage and three years before that I earned it too. I know I should probably feel guilty because this does not leave him with a hole lot of money but it was hiss choice to leave and as I tell my boys, there are consequences to his decision. So tuff noagies!!!!!!!!!!!!!LOL

I had to travel to Houston to work out of the main office and while I was gone she decided she would start carrying on with someone else and then lied and received a restraining order evicting from the house. She now is asking for 75% of what I make. I am still hurt over the fact she decided to move on with someone else and obtain the restraining order faxed to me at my office where any and all could see. The problem is I still love her and guess I always will and that is where the hurt remains.

You WILL stop this right now, soldier - do you hear me??! You WILL put on that pack and strap on that rifle and get in that helicopter and get out there and fight, do you understand me??!