Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
We are going to ALL BE FINE!!! Please, repeat this over and over and over to yourself.
Listen to Positive Music, stuff that makes you feel GOOD. Read things that make you feel GOOD. Surround yourself with as much Positive Stuff as you CAN.
LEARN ABOUT YOU!!!
We have to survive. We have to pick ourselves up and encourage each other. We are too darned Good to go to waste.
None of us are lucky enough to just lay down and die right now...so we Have to keep moving ;-) Might as well enjoy it.
I get so much encouragement from so many of you...I am grateful and could not express this with any words that are at my command. THANK YOU FRIENDS!!! But, I have not done a single thing that the rest of you are not fully capable of doing.
We each have that One Dream. It may have been made fun of by the stbx/ex...but it was OUR Dream. Grab it Now and refuse to let go. Let the wind blow, and just let that Dream take you away. It will help you to heal.
We will all continue to have our times of pain. Yesterday, being so close to being finished with this house, I thought how suprised stbx would be when he got home. OMG-what a thought. I didn't know What to do with that thought. It hurt. I am scared, I feel like a 4 year old sometimes, cut loose from the parents. This is a very confusing time. I was not raised to be alone. But, here I am and I will LEARN to be Good at it.
I am trying so hard to convince myself that I am not ugly. That is my biggest challenge in life. I know that I am intellegent. I know that I am capable. Being "lovable" is something that I know nothing about. I only know How to Love. I am still going to keep trying...not because I like hurt. But because I feel that life owes it to me.
If I can keep hoping for Love-You Can Too!!!
I just don't believe that All of our lives are Over. I don't believe that we are on the shelf, now. I don't believe that we need to roll in misery for prolonged periods of time...there are sunny days to look for and music to be danced to. We can learn to shake off the sadness for just a little while.
That is all that I wanted to say. (((Hugs)))
Listen to Positive Music, stuff that makes you feel GOOD. Read things that make you feel GOOD. Surround yourself with as much Positive Stuff as you CAN.
LEARN ABOUT YOU!!!
We have to survive. We have to pick ourselves up and encourage each other. We are too darned Good to go to waste.
None of us are lucky enough to just lay down and die right now...so we Have to keep moving ;-) Might as well enjoy it.
I get so much encouragement from so many of you...I am grateful and could not express this with any words that are at my command. THANK YOU FRIENDS!!! But, I have not done a single thing that the rest of you are not fully capable of doing.
We each have that One Dream. It may have been made fun of by the stbx/ex...but it was OUR Dream. Grab it Now and refuse to let go. Let the wind blow, and just let that Dream take you away. It will help you to heal.
We will all continue to have our times of pain. Yesterday, being so close to being finished with this house, I thought how suprised stbx would be when he got home. OMG-what a thought. I didn't know What to do with that thought. It hurt. I am scared, I feel like a 4 year old sometimes, cut loose from the parents. This is a very confusing time. I was not raised to be alone. But, here I am and I will LEARN to be Good at it.
I am trying so hard to convince myself that I am not ugly. That is my biggest challenge in life. I know that I am intellegent. I know that I am capable. Being "lovable" is something that I know nothing about. I only know How to Love. I am still going to keep trying...not because I like hurt. But because I feel that life owes it to me.
If I can keep hoping for Love-You Can Too!!!
I just don't believe that All of our lives are Over. I don't believe that we are on the shelf, now. I don't believe that we need to roll in misery for prolonged periods of time...there are sunny days to look for and music to be danced to. We can learn to shake off the sadness for just a little while.
That is all that I wanted to say. (((Hugs)))
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
If you keep your head on straight, and your heart on hold, who knows what magic's in store ahead.
I feel like I've been given a 2nd chance; paroled from a Life Sentence a 22 yr old signed up for.
I have 24 years experience and I'm taking my decree like a Marital Diploma.
I've been paroled and I'm graduating.
I am thinking about how I love others but not myself. Until now, I have always thought the question, do you love yourself, was kind of ridiculous. Now that there is no one here to 'love' me, I find myself alone with that question once again, and wonder how much loneliness arises from not liking or not loving one's self and so wanting to find someone else to do it.
Well, I feel as if I am trapped at the end of an alleyway with that question, and now is a good time to deal with it.
Our thoughts do control our feelings, all feeling is preceded by thought and you really can change your thoughts at will.
Wayne was also nice enough to divorce his wife a year before my split, so his last 2 PBS shows were very helpful for those who were suddenly alone and on their own.
Don't tempt me to chuck the house, the hot rod, two gas guzzler cars, the little honda 250, the mint condition low miles 10 year old pick up truck, all these tools I dont use anymore, the canoe, all these bedroom sets, living room furniture, low taxes, tons and tons of 'stuff', and cash out for my dream.
I worked all my life for this. I retired and thought I would be sharing contentment and camping trips and road trips with someone. But I am not. So I sit here and I dream.
My silly dream of a solid mobile home, new or used furniture (anything but what I have), with room for family visits, near the ocean in florida, with a shed for a new Harley & a bicycle, and a little gas sipper car to come back to Michigan in, on an annual basis, to visit the kids, and grandkids. Walks on the beach with my dog bud, and maybe someone new.
Don't tempt me. I have it made. I'm too old and too smart to dream. Sad. lol.
Larry, it's not scientifically true that feelings are preceded by thoughts, but I take your good point! I think we need, at least I need, to learn to like and love myself before I can live comfortably and successfully with someone else again, I'll say that. This would be a wiser course, anyway.
I agree with Tami that love with another can come at any time. For some reason, I used to think I would not marry until old age. And, in any event, there is a walk in the sun and a cup of coffee to be grateful for and enjoy.
I had a bad day here myself. You see, I am the type of man that keeps all the cards from his wife. I had every card. Birthday, Valentines Day, Christmas, New years, St. Patty's Day, even the card she gave me on our wedding night. Today I had to thrown them all in the trash. It HURT! Like throwing my heart away. But I had to do it to move on. Mom use to say "And this to shall pass" Someday (and I hope soon) I will find that soulmate I am spose to be with. My theme song for my first holiday season alone is "Last Christmas" by Wham.
And by the way... Whoever said you were ugly!? They must be blind! I wish you lived in Virginia! You ARE VERY PRETTY!!
Can I get in on this anyway???
I'm 41, and I plan to live into my 80s AT LEAST, and be active (I know - if you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans). That means I'm less than half-way done. When I think that I spent the first 20+ years just BECOMING me, I'm less than 1/3 done.
Yeah, this sucks. Really, really sucks. A relationship that I worked on for 16+ years is evaporating, and the person I wanted (and sometimes still want) to spend my life with is going her own way. But I'm not done yet, not by a long shot!
My white board in my office has the last stanza of "Invictus" written on it, just as a reminder:
It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll,
I am the master of my fate,
The captain of my soul!
I may be dodging icebergs, but this ship ain't going down yet!