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Thoughts about asking for alimony after we sell our house. In filing (which I have 30 days to reply to) STBX says he will continue to pay certain amount until Feb 09 then house needs to go on market - which I think is fair especially since the market sucks right now. I can't afford to keep it on my own.
We both pretty much make the same amount of money, youngest child with not be a minor anymore after Feb 09. So my question is am I entitled to alimony. I think I want to ask something just so every month he can remember after 22 years together he left a broken hearted wife behind. I know this sounds like vengeful bitch but I can't help thinking like this right now.
We both pretty much make the same amount of money, youngest child with not be a minor anymore after Feb 09. So my question is am I entitled to alimony. I think I want to ask something just so every month he can remember after 22 years together he left a broken hearted wife behind. I know this sounds like vengeful bitch but I can't help thinking like this right now.
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It is according to what state you live in. Some states the laws are tough. Some it is almost impossible. However with the amount of years you were married....you may qualify. Who knows....Go for ANYTHING you can to make him pay. Some men (mine and yours at least) are heartless and they should be made to pay for that at least!! Good luck
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I'm thinking that you should be able to get some kind of Alimony for the 22 years you have been married. I'd definately look into it if I were you. You've read my journals...my husband thinks once this is done, he will get off scott free. Nuh uh..not happening. He owes me what I am asking, and I think your stbx owes it to you. So fight for what you deserve, girl.
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when you do things for the right reasons, i believe good will come of it. you don't sound vengeful. your hurt and in pain. good luck.
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I think alot of the replyers didnt read the part about you both make about the same money...I know in my state alimony only applies to the difference in each other's incomes.
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I read that part, and I still "think" she deserves some kind of Alimony just for the fact he was a cop out. No hurt in trying.
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Alimony or maintenance is only awarded if one party makes significantly less than the other. It is only awarded for a period of time, during with the recipients income is expected to raise, making the alimony/support no longer necessary.
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I didn't ask for the divorce. He didn't give me a choice. He wasn't willing to try marriage counseling. I mean why would he, he's perfect, just ask his shack up! He wasted 22 years of my life because he didn't have the confidence to do better than me until some scumbag (i.e. his "other-half") gave him another look. I think I am entitled to restitution for being filler until his "other half" showed up and gave him the confidence to leave. So, hell yes, I am going to ask for as much alimony as I can get for as long as I can get it, preferrably until I meet my "other half" (obviously I was wrong in believing I already had). Or at least until our children are grown and on their own, which ever comes first.
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Wow 2sensitive - that could have been me writing that.
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