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I believe so.

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I wasn't married to my ex and we have no children but I believed we could get past it and regain trust. We went through months of counseling and we were rebuilding trust and then I got a hold of his cell phone..... old habits did not die for him. I was stupid.

It all depends on whether or not you believe he will change, whether or not you want to make it work, and whether or not he does. I believe people can change...hey, if they couldn't would we all be here?

A marriage, a family is always worth saving.

People change. If they WANT to. They have to want it.

people only change if they want to for sure! A marriage is allways worth fighting for..but in the end, it really needs two people to make it work.

I do think forgiveness is the best thing you can do in any situation. But he has been with her for 3 years and claims he loves her? After a comment like that 3 minutes is too long.
I applaud you for seeking counseling and attempting to make it work but enough is enough. My .02.

depends on whether he wantd to change or not.

By the way, has he ever hit you or threatened to hit you? How about getting in your face during a disagreement? If so, take off and don't look back.

no he never hit me, but I have been afraid, not anymore. I just dont know how to look at him and not see someone else. Or imagine him with her and he didnt end it for me, he ended it because I found out, then he panicked and stopped seeing her altogether, no communication whatsoever, as far as I know and I have checked, but I dont want a relationship built on his guilt and fear

It's all about them. Run.

Well, if you love him and he loves you. Anything can be worked out. Take you time, you deserve it and be cautious.
If you both have to think about it, then you guys might not be ready to recommit. If you do recommit, I would think you have to give it everything you got. Sounds to me like you have tried.

yea well I dont think I have much more to give, it is probably best to make it final, I cant go back to being that dependent anymore. Thankyou all for your honesty

I know people say this all the time. Once a cheater always a cheater. I've wasted 21 years of my life with a man I did not know at all. I thought we were just having problems in our marriage. He was playing a game of not getting caught and I believe that is all it was with him. A game.

Get out asap. I forgave my stbx 2ce in the last 5 yrs and he started on this third on this spring. Enough is enough. If yours wanted to work it out, he would have by now. The trust is broken and it takes more effort to repair it than most people are able to give. It's a lifetime commitment of being transparent and making sure that he is trustworthy. Counseling doesn't fix a character flaw and lack of moral fiber. I wish you the best. Take care of yourself and be strong.

I truly dont think people change, they may try to, but who we are will always be the same. We may control our actions or inhibit our desires,but eventually we are who we are