I feel like that.

Maybe it will go away? lol.

I want to get out there - but I am waiting for divorce to be over. It REALLY sucks...

You don't HAVE to date.

There's no law that says we have to be hooked up with someone all of the time.

So what that he's screwing around with anything that gives him the time of the day. That does not mean that he's "moved on." It means he is running around with women.

Focus on getting healthy. It is normal to miss being with someone, but it is healthy to learn to like being independent.

A healthy adult should be able to entertain and pacify their self. If you can't stand to be alone, you probably don't need to be dating.

Good luck. It is hard, but you can learn to be happy single, and without dates.

I thought I was ready immediately. I was definatley wrong. I needed male attention and conversation...just plain ole affection. I don't do regrets and I don't regret having formed a "Friendship" with this person BUT I wish I had waited. Now, after this person and a failed marriage I am very skiddish. I still want the attention but I don't want to form a bond with someone else right now. I have been asked out for this Friday and although I don't want to do it, I need to socialize myself. I;m not attracted to this person but he's nice and seems respectable. I'm very tempted to not answer his call on Friday. Let's you and I both take our time.

Well its ok to go out and date but just protect your heart dont just give it to the first guy thats nice to you.. Go out meet new people and little by little the right man will come along..

i've read in different healing books that its best to wait until fully healed before moving on. in fact im living proof of it! dont set urself up for heartache.....its like adding salt to a wound that hasn't healed yet.

for fun....just go on some friendly dates...like @ starbucks or something...just to boost ur confidence. no hurt in that....just dont get attached and u'll be fine! good of luck and best wishes hun :)

I know where you're coming from. I miss having someone of the opposite sex to talk and laugh with. But, my first clue that STBX would divorce me was in year 12 so how will I ever be able to feel comfortable in a relationship again if you can't even trust one after 12 years?

It's been 2 yrs since this began for me...still don't know if I can trust myself with someone elses heart or give mine to someone else...
I like talking to the guys here...but don't want to with any where I live (YUCK). And just not ready to date.
I think we will know it when the time is right.
Right now, enjoy finding out who you are...

I am not at the point where I feel like dating. It has only been 2 months of physical separation emotionally separated more than a year ago. I am not ready to put myself out there. I totally understand why you would feel afraid. take care.

I feel like damaged goods and not even a half of sale is not going to help.

Not ready and definitely will not just put myself out there for anyone to grab. I have to believe that one day it will be right for me and until then I will have to make new friends and enjoy myself again. I want to fall in love with me and take care of me before I can enjoy another.

I felt like that, as I am sure many others have on this site. I don't think you're to the point you can go out and actively search, but when that someone falls in your lap, your fears will begin to subside. That's when you'll move forward.

Guard: up

Lessons: learned

Tests: passed

Go slow :)

Absolutely. I've met and talked to women, and dated, etc. I've let them all know immediately I have no plans on long term anything and will never consider being in a relationship other than friends, dinner, going out, etc. That eases things for me, and gives me the much needed companionship of someone of the opposite sex and helps me keep my mind off my ex wife, and works so, so well.

I so know how you feel! I am thinking the same things. I am so scared to find another man that will treat me worse. Just thought I would let you know that you are not alone in thinking this way and you can talk to me anytime. I really need friends right now!

It sounds like you are ready for companionship but not ready for a relationsip. As some others have mentioned, start off with some casual dates. Every date doesn't have to lead to a relationship, or even to a second date! Just dip your toe back in and as you get comfortable interacting with people again you will know when you are ready for a relationship. Have some fun! Just be honest about what you are looking for on the first date so no one gets hurt.