Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I am new here, and I have to say that signing up for this site was one of the hardest things I have done. I have been married for 7 years. We got married young, I was 21 (and pregnant) and he was 24. The first 2 years were really rough, but we got through them. We had some good years in between then and now. Now we are living in the same house and that's about it. Every time I try to talk to him he gets mad and says if I want to leave then I should just go. Five minutes later he acts like the conversation never took place.
He says I think I'm perfect (I don't, nor have I ever claimed to be). All I want is to either fix my marriage or just be done with it. I can't go on the way things have been going. He comes home sits on the couch and watches TV then falls asleep there. I eat dinner with the kids, he's thirty feet away eating in front of the TV. I ask him to take our son to school or pick him up (which is maybe once a month) and he tells me to get off my a** and do it myself, or he does do it but complains the whole time. I feel like I'm doing it all myself, shouldn't marriage be a partnership?
I'm scared, I know he loves me, truly I don't doubt that, but his actions don't match what he says (no abuse whatsoever just apathy). I had to start working nights 6 months ago so I have needed his help more so I can get sleep during the day and he does it occasionaly but he complains and moans the whole time and wants to know why I can't do it myself! Apparently I should work all night and never sleep at all! If I tell him I want to seperate or divorce he will be very angry, I truly don't know if he could ever be around me and be civil if it comes to that.
We have two great boys who we both love to death. I want them to have two parents, but I'm beginning to think it might be better to have two parents who aren't together than two who are but aren't happy. I wanted to have another child, but I have accepted that it is not going to happen with him. I spent the day listing maternity and baby things I had been stocking up on on Ebay and it has been breaking my heart.
I know it's dumb, but one of the things that terrifies me is being alone for the rest of my life. What if I never find someone else? I have no problem being alone, I just don't want to be that way forever. I want to save my marriage, but I can't do it alone. What do you do when the other half doesn't want to see the problem or talk about anything?
Sorry for rambling, but thanks for listening.
He says I think I'm perfect (I don't, nor have I ever claimed to be). All I want is to either fix my marriage or just be done with it. I can't go on the way things have been going. He comes home sits on the couch and watches TV then falls asleep there. I eat dinner with the kids, he's thirty feet away eating in front of the TV. I ask him to take our son to school or pick him up (which is maybe once a month) and he tells me to get off my a** and do it myself, or he does do it but complains the whole time. I feel like I'm doing it all myself, shouldn't marriage be a partnership?
I'm scared, I know he loves me, truly I don't doubt that, but his actions don't match what he says (no abuse whatsoever just apathy). I had to start working nights 6 months ago so I have needed his help more so I can get sleep during the day and he does it occasionaly but he complains and moans the whole time and wants to know why I can't do it myself! Apparently I should work all night and never sleep at all! If I tell him I want to seperate or divorce he will be very angry, I truly don't know if he could ever be around me and be civil if it comes to that.
We have two great boys who we both love to death. I want them to have two parents, but I'm beginning to think it might be better to have two parents who aren't together than two who are but aren't happy. I wanted to have another child, but I have accepted that it is not going to happen with him. I spent the day listing maternity and baby things I had been stocking up on on Ebay and it has been breaking my heart.
I know it's dumb, but one of the things that terrifies me is being alone for the rest of my life. What if I never find someone else? I have no problem being alone, I just don't want to be that way forever. I want to save my marriage, but I can't do it alone. What do you do when the other half doesn't want to see the problem or talk about anything?
Sorry for rambling, but thanks for listening.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
My suggestion is to seek counseling. You can get a trained professional to help you explore if the marriage can be saved (which we all hope for). And if it can't, you will need the counseler for your and the childrens sake. Take care, and never worry about rambling on, you need toexpress yourself.
Hang in there and i am here for you if you want to talk,
a marriage should be a partnership when my ex started doing that i
came up with one theory
if hes going to make me act like a single parent might as
well be one. so i left.
follow your heart you will
know whats right and do it.
good luck in your decision