My wife and I have been together for 19 years this month. We have been married 14 and have two beautiful children. We both were having problems expressing our feelings that were coupled with traumatic events, in short succession, that happened in our life. The troubles of not communicating date back a few years and with parenthood we had little to no time with each other. However, the recent end result of the problems occurred in a period of about 5 months. At first I was playing the blame game and shut her out, then sought help, and now she is doing the same with blaming me for the problems and not communicating with me. During the time I shut her out (a few months), as she put it I flushed our relationship. I was trying to work on myself and expressed that to her, but I did not invest in our relationship. She left me and the children and has been out for two months, says she is done and wants a divorce. She is in what appears to be a platonic relationship with my ex-best friend (best man too), and rarely will open up and express her feelings to me. Although she has said she is done, when she visits the kids she stays here and will engage in conversation with me about our relationship, but then says that is why she doesn't want to come around. She has went to the doctor and one marriage councilor since the departure with me and has agreed to see the marriage councilor for 'my benefit'. I am having a great amount of difficulty coming to terms with the potential of divorce, the loss of both of my best friends, their relationship together, trying to figure out what to do with myself (I was working all the time until this year) and becoming a single parent. Any advice will help, thanks so much
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