Okay, I know this is going to sound stupid, but do we try to work it out without involving everyone and their brother? Do we need to spend all this money on lawyers? I agree that we should probably get a divorce, blah, blah, blah. He agrees to let me be sole decision maker about school, medical, etc. If we can agree on how to divide up bills, child support, can we do this with one (mutually agreed upon lawyer), just take the paperwork to him and sign it? Also, we were married 18 years - he has a military retirement and in 10 years will have another one, then social security, eventually. Is it wrong of me to think some how I should be allowed some of that? I will have raised all three kids. Even to this point I am probably the 70-75% provider - and now that we are divorcing probably 85-90% ((I know if I am lucky)). I do work outside the home now, but for 8 years I stayed home for kids, etc. So my retirement will not be as large as his. Is this unfair of me to even think about? Also, on investments - we put money in his work account because they matched it. We didn\'t put any in mine. Do you think I should get 1/2? I don\'t want to be the greedy ex-wife that makes him suffer (financially) - even if he does deserve it - ha! Any advice would be SO appreciated. Thanks!
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