Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
When I get depressed I feel home sick. I miss my family home, the beautiful land, my gardens, my horse barn, cooking dinners for my family, sitting on the couch watching TV at nite, decorating for Christmas, seeing my Son EVERY day,my cats blah blah blah. THOSE are the things I miss so much and want back. Dose this mean I miss the WRONG things?? I keep thinking the reasons I get so depressed and homsick is because I made the wrong choice to leave and I should go back and hold my family together. Am I addicted to "memories and material things" ??
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
When I look backwards, I want to keep moving forwards. The things missed were illusions and dreams.
If you have the option of returning, give it a good thought.
I think the one thing I have realized through all of this is I like being married (wasn't too sure for a while there) and having someone special in my life. But to go back to him without seeing any real change would be much worse than being alone.
I've read that after the 'leaver' is gone for a while and away from the stress of the marriage the 'good' memories will start bubbling to the surface and make you think maybe you should go back and try again. Just like when you are trying to leave and all you can remember are all the 'bad' things, once you have left it is easy to start focusing on the 'good' things you miss. I think (and hope) this is just a passing phase for me.