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Ok this is weirding me out. My sister and I just talked *understand we were estranged for a few years while I was involved with the recent ex*. Ok my sister lost her husband last November due to complications from the Agent Orange he was exposed to in vietnam. Family members kept his death from me because at the time of his death i was recovering from a nervous breakdown. tonight I told her I can still recall the voices of our deceased parents becasue of dreams I had about each of them this past year..my sister demanded I tell her of th em
Well the first involved my mother during the throws of problems with ex. I woke bolt upright when I dreamed she was saying to me "Lillian, what the hell are you doing?". Less than 10 days after that dream I decided to get my ass out of the horrid situation I was in, put in for a transfer...pretty much demanded the ex buy me out of our condo....bought a new place 1000 miles away and got that transfer. OK I've kept this to myself..for nearly a year..didn't tell my therapist even! (afraid she'd commit me to an institution). My sister confided in me tonight that she had a similar dream about our mother shortly after her husband's death. My sister was doing the same thing as I...crying, not sleeping, losing weight. She dreamed that our mother sat on her bed and said "Peggy, what the hell are you doing?". That totally freaked me out!
Then I told her the dream I had about our father after I moved...I dreamed he showed up at th e condo my ex and I owned...sat in the dark waiting for ex to come home and when he did he flipped on the lights and said to my ex "what the fuck did you do to my little girl"! I told my sister I could still see Daddy in his "casual suit" (brown)....wearing suspenders! My sister is older than I but cannot recall Daddy wearing suspenders (she sounded slightly miffed that she couldn't)..but said "oh sweetie, that sounds like something Daddy would say to some rat bastard that hurt one of us!
I'm a little freaked out! But on the other hand....I'm so glad my sister can relate!
Well the first involved my mother during the throws of problems with ex. I woke bolt upright when I dreamed she was saying to me "Lillian, what the hell are you doing?". Less than 10 days after that dream I decided to get my ass out of the horrid situation I was in, put in for a transfer...pretty much demanded the ex buy me out of our condo....bought a new place 1000 miles away and got that transfer. OK I've kept this to myself..for nearly a year..didn't tell my therapist even! (afraid she'd commit me to an institution). My sister confided in me tonight that she had a similar dream about our mother shortly after her husband's death. My sister was doing the same thing as I...crying, not sleeping, losing weight. She dreamed that our mother sat on her bed and said "Peggy, what the hell are you doing?". That totally freaked me out!
Then I told her the dream I had about our father after I moved...I dreamed he showed up at th e condo my ex and I owned...sat in the dark waiting for ex to come home and when he did he flipped on the lights and said to my ex "what the fuck did you do to my little girl"! I told my sister I could still see Daddy in his "casual suit" (brown)....wearing suspenders! My sister is older than I but cannot recall Daddy wearing suspenders (she sounded slightly miffed that she couldn't)..but said "oh sweetie, that sounds like something Daddy would say to some rat bastard that hurt one of us!
I'm a little freaked out! But on the other hand....I'm so glad my sister can relate!
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I am glad for the restored relationship with your sister. They sure are handy things to have around huh?
I dont think that was a dream Courier. We have "visits" during dreamtime. I have no doubt that it was real. Also if you take a peak at your post time 11:11 which is the "angelic" hour or divine intervention. Very cool..thanks for sharing!
Thanks for the info...I'll pass it onto her...we are now both wondering.
Becky, they sure the hell are! I didn't realize how much I missed her till these past few months! Funny thing is....we've shared recent pictures..we've become so much alike its frightening! I shared a recent picture of her with a friend, who said "well I knew you had a sister, but you never said she was a twin". She took my picture to a HS birthday party and took my picture with her....to show her friends that her "sister from hell" had grown up...she said her friends were like "holy **** you guys never looked alike as kids"
No matter what, they are with us forever.