
Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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My husband left me 3 months ago. And He DEVASTATED me! I couldnt sleep or eat for a month. And then it took another month to begin to accept that he had really left me. I found my strength and was getting to a point where I could really start to live for me and our kids. All the while I would be his devils advocate. I would make it a point to remind him of the horrible mistake he had made, and that we were worth a second chance. Well it turns out that the stronger and more determined I got, the more doubts he was starting to show. And the next thing I know he is staying at the house, and has been here for over 2 weeks now. Well I am here to say that this second chance is not what I was hoping for. It makes me more uncomfortable than I was when I thought he was never coming home again. Something is missing now. And it is the innocence, that has been lost now. I love him with every fiber of my being. I have not changed, he did when he left me. I want nothing more than to have him come home for good. But right now things just seem so weird. I also cannot get out of my mind that most "second chances" end up right back where we all are right now. I am not bouncing off the walls. And things shouldnt be the same. I am not looking for that. Our marriage should be different now. So many things have been said that cannot be ignored. I am scared. I thought I would be over the moon with happiness. And its just not the case. So with this second chance , I have to have my eyes wide open ,and make sure that I dont let my guard down for him to hurt me again. The man I have been married to for 13 years ..today. So even though I have been given this chance, I am not so sure it is going to be able to work. Because I am not the same person I was before. It is a sad strained feeling. I still love him soooo much..And with anything only time will tell.
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My story differs at this point, because I was ecstatic!!! I opened the door to our home back up to him full speed ahead. I was in heaven and so were the kids. He was too, or so he said. I let my guard down and he hurt me terribly again.
I'm not saying that will happen to you, I have seen many relationships work on a second chance. You both just need to be able to forgive (I know you can never forget) and move forward. Have you guys considered counseling? Do you by chance go to church?
I wish I knew what to tell you, but I failed at it, so I'm not much help. But I would like to say that, yes, please guard your heart. The pain is overwhelming when they walk away again, not only for you but the children.
I really wish you the best. I've been where you are and I'm here if you need to talk.
One last thing, I am sure that some second chances do work out, but those people are sure not posting here.
(jeez I can't believe how touchy-feely I've become :) )
But when you do have time to reflect sometimes it does bring us worry and other considerations. Who wants to be hurt again? Can I actually go through this? Why is my guard so high?
Not sure what is right for anybody, I about a month ago decided I could not handle the pain, rejection and crying ever again from her. Yes it was the second time, so I needed to learn. But there I was hurt again. The 3rd time is not going to happen.