Of course he wants you to be friendly with her, why can't you just forgive and forget? What are you completely heartless?LOL My x tells me that his prisoncrackwhore isn't a bad influence on our kids. Oh yeah I say..let me go to the local jail, find a con with a drug habit and let him loose around the kids. Bet he would forgive me for that?

Oh, he knows what he did - he's just such an ass it's easier on his conscience to act clueless. Does he really exect you to carry the responsibility of acting like a grown up after he has acted like the ultimate child? He lives in la la land. Do voo doo dolls really work? Can you find any that look like them?

My stbx would defend the OW in our conversations. I would refer to her as "the whore", and he would say...NO she's not!!!! LOL. It was his fault, she didn't do anything wrong.

One day he took our boys to work, and guess what. He introduced my children to her. I just can't tell you how angry I was. My stbx says they are just friends now.. LOL (he is begging to come home now, he want's his family back)

As long as the kids are safe, what can we do. Just get through our own pain I guess. Its not fair and its just so hard.

Every time I get angry and attempt to make some insulting remark about her, he defends her like there's no tomorrow. But if she's willing to see a married man, I have to wonder how she's raising her own kid, and she ain't gonna get her hands on mine.
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A selfish, confused woman who needs some help. That's what kind of woman she is. I also like to call the OW whore and bitch, I think those are appropriate names to describe the kind of people they are. I do agree that this is a load of crap.

Stormywaters, you're right she IS a whore, it's just that our H's are whores also. People like that deserve each other. They were lucky to have us.

I think that the OW is almost always a bit of slime they dragged up from somewhere. My ex has a new gf who has lost one of her kids of the child care services, is on drugs, and gave her baby two black eyes. I mean WTF??? Is he THAT desperate? And he has the cheek to say I am a bad mum and she is a good one. It is impossible to figure it out really.

At the same time, though. You dont want to stoop to that level. It is hard, really hard, but being all business with em hurts em most and makes em realise what they lost with you.

My x doesn't think he's done anything wrong either...told my kids when his sister brought them to see him for 15 minutes "You will be sleeping over here soon no matter what your mother says." First of all I never told the kids that they wouldn't ever be sleeping over their dad's...second of all, he'd actually have to exercise his visitation for it to happen. The freak thinks it's okay to date someone who abuses drugs (oh, and I'm supposed to be impressed because she doesn't drink!), lives with her, gets said crack, marijuana, and pill ho pregnant, and I'm supposed to be happy because he's finally found happiness and compatibility! What EVER! Funny thing is that I am sure that all this woman sees are dollar signs when she looks at him...38 year old, balding, beer belly, half an eyebrow, hairy, messed up teeth because he was afraid of dentist...what would a 27 year old want with THAT?

LOL...I don't care what he does at this point. I do NOT have to like her and as long as she is using drugs and doesn't have custody of her own two children, I don't even have to deal with her with visitation issues...heck my kids can't stand the woman (or my x at this point)...hope she enjoys that!