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To make a long story short I have been separated a little over 2 weeks and I am 8 hours away from her and our marriage is not in trouble because of infidelity or abuse but from my suffering depression.
I have tried the usual begging and pleading and this has shown to make things worse so I disconnected myself from her with no contact and thought I would give it a week to see what happens and Last night after only 2 and a half days she contacted me via msn as this is our onlu means of communication for right now. I get a message that pops up " so how are you going to stop th divorce ?" I did not get into it and avoided any possible confrontation with her and just responded I will not do that and I then changed the subject fast to avoid any hurt on her end or mine as this is touchy right now.
Does this look like she is reaching out to me even though it was in a sort of negative way and was maybe just trying to open a dialogue in some way because I have not started any sort of contact with her so I can work on myself.
What are your views on what I have said .
thanks in advance
Tim
I have tried the usual begging and pleading and this has shown to make things worse so I disconnected myself from her with no contact and thought I would give it a week to see what happens and Last night after only 2 and a half days she contacted me via msn as this is our onlu means of communication for right now. I get a message that pops up " so how are you going to stop th divorce ?" I did not get into it and avoided any possible confrontation with her and just responded I will not do that and I then changed the subject fast to avoid any hurt on her end or mine as this is touchy right now.
Does this look like she is reaching out to me even though it was in a sort of negative way and was maybe just trying to open a dialogue in some way because I have not started any sort of contact with her so I can work on myself.
What are your views on what I have said .
thanks in advance
Tim
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
I have disconnected with my wife and after only 2 days she has made contact with me in a rather grasping at straws statement or question asking me out of the blue "How can you stop the divorce" and I said Im not going to do that and instead of being drawn into a possible begging state I told her I had to go now , she then asked why I wouldnt fight it and I said well maybe its a part of changing.
In your opinion do you think I did the right thing?
Thanks again
it appears ONLY based on what you said, perhaps your wife had a role in your depression at all making it siutational depression? I am not able to fully understand but her negative msn message says she's trying to justify things to make you "give her power" over you. By begging, pleading, etc. It is GOOD that you broke off all communication. Just work on you, the rest will play iteslf out if was meant to be. Just keep doing for you. You sound like you're on the right track by stopping communication.
Tim
Tim