Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I struggle on a daily basis to forgive my stbx husband for the way he is acting. He intentionally hurts me to the point it's cruel and worst of all he hurts our children in incomprehensible ways. I feel my anger towards him and I recognize it's a barrier towards healing. I know I can't change him and I must accept things for what they are, not for what I'd like them to be. My wishes don't change reality.
I think many of us are in the midst of a divorce where we were wronged and continue to be wronged, which is why I am posting this. I think we could all learn something from what is being said.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is not easy
When we believe
Our world has ended,
And blame lies with another.
Forgiving is letting go of the pain;
Accepting that what was, was.
It will not change,
Cannot change.
Forgiving is dismissing the blame.
Choices were made that caused the hurt.
We each could have chosen differently,
But we didn't.
Forgiving is looking at the pain,
Learning the lesson it has produced,
And understanding
What we have learned.
Forgiving allows us to move on
Toward a better understanding
Of universal love,
And our true purpose.
Forgiving is knowing that love
Is the answer to all questions,
And that we
Are in some way connected.
Forgiving is starting over
With the knowledge we have gained.
I forgive you--
And I forgive myself.
I think many of us are in the midst of a divorce where we were wronged and continue to be wronged, which is why I am posting this. I think we could all learn something from what is being said.
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is not easy
When we believe
Our world has ended,
And blame lies with another.
Forgiving is letting go of the pain;
Accepting that what was, was.
It will not change,
Cannot change.
Forgiving is dismissing the blame.
Choices were made that caused the hurt.
We each could have chosen differently,
But we didn't.
Forgiving is looking at the pain,
Learning the lesson it has produced,
And understanding
What we have learned.
Forgiving allows us to move on
Toward a better understanding
Of universal love,
And our true purpose.
Forgiving is knowing that love
Is the answer to all questions,
And that we
Are in some way connected.
Forgiving is starting over
With the knowledge we have gained.
I forgive you--
And I forgive myself.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
We've been separate for over a year and we are now able to have sincere and good conversations. Oddly enough he is the one who is angry, right now. He has caused a lot of damage to our marriage. I've decided to put me first instead of spending the next 10 years trying to live with the irreprable damages. In hius world he should be forgiven and I should want to improve the quality of his life. I miss him because he was a great guy. I'm no longer angry...not a lot anyway. I just want to go on with my life. I love the person I married and that's who I like to think of him as. His life fromt this point has little to do with the way I Live my life. It's been a lot to let go of but for my sake I've had to.
My suggestion to you shouldn't worry about forgiving him, you don't owe him that. You owe yourself a rested mind. It is more realistic to put your energy into trying to get past the hurt. Own it, don't let it own you.
Love is for giving
Love is forgiving
The most important person you can forgive is in the mirror, go look and say "I forgive You"
I forgive myself for even giving a crap why,what,when and where.
I forgive myself for wasting almost a year of my life caring about why an alcohlic drug addict didn't want me anymore.