what an ass ...

and I still have not figured out how people can hurt each other like that ...

Sounds like he is wrapped up in himself right now. He doesn't see how you are hurting. If you have poured your heart out, maybe you should pull back a bit now. Just a thought. I could be wrong.

Tammi, I know it's hard because he looks the same mostly, but you are talking to the wind right now. I'm sorry.

It's called abuse

time to say buh bye hun....

you are right, you don't deserve this.

*hugs*

I tell you its the alcoholic. NOTHING they do is rational. It's always ALL about them. You may be a hooked enabler, try detaching with love, go to al anon...its not for alcoholics, but rather its for those who have a family member that is an alcoholic.

Believe me sweetie, I think we all wonder how someone can hurt another in any way. I've dealt with a lot from my husband, a lot that I don't share to often with to many other people. But all we can do is learn to cope. I do agree, if he's acting this way then I think it's time you took a step back and reexamined everything and walk away. You don't deserve to be hurt like that, none of us do.

Tammi, Zoot gave U some great advice.It's not going to stop, So you have to find a way, it might be to leave him or maybe stay with him, but either way you need help PLEASE TRY AL ANON,, ITS DOES WORK.
STAY STRONG MY THOUGHTS ARE WITH U....

I'm not making fun here, really. I've had 2 cats die and it did break my heart. But I seriously wonder about someone who says that putting down a dog is the hardest thing he's had to deal with when he's breaking his family apart. You will not find a more passionate animal lover than me, but people are still most important. It's a shame he doesn't seem to understand that....

jen70...I like cats too, but I cant eat the whole thing....its the other white meat....lol

Seriously I like cats...I just read those two remarks today and had to say it.

My cat is named maggie...that was name she had when I found her at the dog pound two years ago. She really thinks she is running the household, me, and my dog. I never had a cat before.

tammi, your dealing with an alcoholic, he is not rational and cannot be reasonable, they are selfish and self-centered. he does not want to be responsible for himself, let alone anyone else, and the skank, she goes right along, she is nothing but a person to drink with and she accepts everything he does. this has nothing to do with you. yes, your the one who is hurt and the children too. this man is sick and he will never change until he becomes sober and accountable. it's nothing you have done or failed to do.

next time he calls tell him your busy and you cant speak.
i hate that its like they call and ruin your life. MY sbtx called me at work and asked how to make pasta. After what he did what the f###K is that about!!!!!!!!!

he had his mom call me at work to tell me that he wont be calling me anymore!!!

they try to gain power over you that way try to pull you back in

Tammi,

I am sorry for what you are going through. I had similar conversations with my STBX early on. I agree it sounds like he is wrapped up in himself right now and only time will bring him out of that. I found it amazing with my STBX that after almost 20 years together she was able to act so cold when I tried pouring out my feelings.

And if putting a dog to sleep is the hardest thing he has ever had to do, I would say he has a lot of growing up to do.

Living with someone who abuses alcohol is a horrible thing. You will be SO much better off when he leaves this weekend for good. You just don't realize it yet. I think it's just making it hard since he's still living there. I lived with an alcoholic for 14 1/2 years...binge drinking...lovely. He absolutely could NOT drink socially. One drink meant that he would soon be so drunk that he would be out of control. No one deserves that kind of life. It got to the point where I wouldn't even go to get togethers with my friends because of his drinking...and I dreaded going anywhere there would be alcohol served.

Seriously, be glad he's leaving. It will give you an opportunity to heal.

You have every reason to be upset. Not the way that a husband is supposed to treat his wife.

I hope that you are being careful..in the event that he is sleeping with this woman.

We can't control how other people treat us. You do have, however, complete control over how you respond. You don't have to put up with this.