Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I would like to know your thoughts on this:
It has been 9 weeks since he left and we have only had 4 conversations since he left. I saw him for 1 hour to get my belongings from his house 4 weeks after he left. There has been no contact. However he did call me to tell last saturday(I didnt answer). We have only known each other since Oct 1,2006. He is an alcoholic and I am not obsessing like I did when he 1st left me. I am going on with my life not expecting anything. I LOVED HIM DEEPLY I married him!!! He took himself from me never to be with me again. My brain and my heart I believe are telling me that it really was a mistake marrying him. I realize now that I was paying for everything EVERYTHING I supported 2 ppl. he drank mostly and worked when HE needed money or mostof the time HIS MAMMA had work for him to do an payed him. His mamma bought him new truck too after he left me. WHAT DO Y'ALL THINK OF MY SITUATION? I can't afford a psychologist so I come on here and I have my mamma and family.
It has been 9 weeks since he left and we have only had 4 conversations since he left. I saw him for 1 hour to get my belongings from his house 4 weeks after he left. There has been no contact. However he did call me to tell last saturday(I didnt answer). We have only known each other since Oct 1,2006. He is an alcoholic and I am not obsessing like I did when he 1st left me. I am going on with my life not expecting anything. I LOVED HIM DEEPLY I married him!!! He took himself from me never to be with me again. My brain and my heart I believe are telling me that it really was a mistake marrying him. I realize now that I was paying for everything EVERYTHING I supported 2 ppl. he drank mostly and worked when HE needed money or mostof the time HIS MAMMA had work for him to do an payed him. His mamma bought him new truck too after he left me. WHAT DO Y'ALL THINK OF MY SITUATION? I can't afford a psychologist so I come on here and I have my mamma and family.
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I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
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A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
Keep your eyes open, but remember what has happened in the past.....often behaviors repeat that your ex has done....it may take time, but usually they repeat whatever behaviors caused you the leave or him to leave in the first place.....
If what was a bad mistake? Your marriage? Only you can answer that. But you've just cataloged above a list of dysfunction, hurt and emptiness. Ask yourself why you chose that? Find out what the resources are in your area; you should be able to get some help with counseling. If that is really not an option, then find a 'Divorce Care' group AND (not or!!) and Alanon group.
You are still in a circle of listing time, duration, frequency of no contact; cataloging your relationship. You've got to begin to move beyond that. I know where you are coming from. That is a long process; it is a process that I started, have stalled on, and am only just beginning for real. To TRULY know and understand myself; my motivations. You've got to take steps to stop looking back and look forward.
((((HUGS)))))
You are all over the map emotionally, not just day-to-day, but several times throughout each day.
Listen to 4queens. There ARE resources out there. Call the local ER or Health and Human Servcies office, get some direction, and get yourself some professional help.
We care, but we are not professionals.