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In leu of my pending divorce and contemplating the many decisions i have to make going forward i have decided if and when i start dating that i will be abstaining from sex.Intercourse specifically....and although this is a personal decision i am putting it out here to my DS family in hopes that it will be a form of accountability.
I know this is a hard road to trudge but i feel spiritually commanded and personably desired.I am not boasting nor looking for an applause.Simply putting it out there.I would however be interested in others stories whom have done this,are doing this,or even whom may be considering this avenue going forward.Thanks!
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I know this is a hard road to trudge but i feel spiritually commanded and personably desired.I am not boasting nor looking for an applause.Simply putting it out there.I would however be interested in others stories whom have done this,are doing this,or even whom may be considering this avenue going forward.Thanks!
_Savery1
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
"it's ok now" but I am having a hard time understanding why a court can tell me the promise I made doesn't apply anymore.
However, does that mean no more rub downs?
IF I ever get into another relationship, I'm going about it differently this time. Sex can really skew a person's judgement!
And if/when somebody comes into my life that is loving and special. I will have my whole self to give to him. Little old fashioned--buy hey "I yam what I yam"
This is a conscious decision I have come to recently and so far have been able to adhere to. At times, it has not been easy, but it is a boundary I am determined not to cross until I am ready. Will I continue to be tested. Yup!
Life constantly throws us challenges, it is how we deal with them that defines us. I am trying to define myself in new and improved ways. My self worth is more important than physical gratification. The next time I become intimate, it will be for all the right reasons.
Thanks for the discussion.
It falls under learning from the past. I think its a very good thing and I think we all do it, to some degree.
For me personally it IS about doing things the "right" way.Heck..every relationship i have entered started off "physical".NONE of them lasted.I'm not saying that people can elect to have "relations" and that if they do it won't work.It could.But i feel like waiting employs that i am concentrating on loving myself first.
Outside of any religious or moral beliefs(which mine does play a part with)at the minimum it is or can be disastrous to a healthy relationship(in my exp).
If Absence makes the heart grow fonder than perhaps Abstinence can make the heart ponder...and that is good.Less likely to make choices based on "feelings" derived from emotions easily mixed by giving your body to another person.
Me too, me too! I think it will make us stronger people and pray I will get a differant result by trying this new approach!
The less you have of something..the more valuable it becomes.My prayer is that when the time comes the committment and sacrifices i have made for the next Mrs Savery will make me more valuable in her eyes and she more valuable in mine!
I respect your choice, to each his own. Who knows how long I will be able to endure, but I am at least going to make the effort...for me. An important first step for me. That is all that is important for me at this point in time.