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5 yr anniversary

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Today is my 5 yr. My husband and I have not been in a good place for awhile. I had asked him a month ago to save the date for us to do something together. His response was that he already had plans for the day (not including me) and didn't feel like our marriage was anything to celebrate. I had prepared myself for this day after his response. Made plans with others for the day. Woke up this morning to find a card sitting on the countertop addressed "Happy Anniversary Wife". I left before he was up and didn't open it. Came home later. The card is still sitting there. What do I do with it? He is gone for the day/evening. What is the appropriate response? I have yet to even bother addressing the anniversary to him since he voiced his feelings. What do I do with the damn card? Open it? leave it? What???
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I wouldn't be able to look at it I would be opening it. I went to the theropist on my 3rds anniv this yr
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I would thank him for a card but that's all I would say. and no emotions. you can always open it and then throw in the bin, I doubt that he would be interested what have happenned to the card. But at least you would acknowledge his gesture.
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you got me... my H did the same to me on my birthday...only he told me our marriage was over in his opinion, gave me his keys to our house, and when he left, he left a birthday card on the desk for me...WTF!?!? still don't know whether it was meant as an insult, guilt, or he is just that stupid!?!?!??!

actions speak louder than words.....
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i'd read it....never know whats inside. and you can always file it (under "G") if necessary
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Okay.... It has been opened. It reads "For My Sweetheart-(????)Take my lips, my ears, my eyes, my two big feet(excuse the size),my hands,my arms, just pick your part- Might as well, you've got my heart! P.S. The card was a bear pop up???? Still don't get it!
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Before we started going to counseling (when things were still raw) my husband sent me roses on our anniversary. I didn't know what to do either. I ended up putting keeping them.

I would open it. I wouldn't feel obligated to respond to him, unless you want to.
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Maybe he is rethinking things...

Why don't you ask him what it means.
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