My stbx and I have been together a long time. We met when we were just 19 and are now in our mid 30's. We have had a very turmoilous marriage from pretty much the very beginning. There were many types of abusive situations going on in his family from the time he was a young boy that I feel were causes of the issues we had in our marriage. He is a good man, however his "vices" caused so many issues that after trying so hard to keep the marriage together it just came to a complete halt. We are seperated and going through the process of divorce. We tried counseling at least 6 different times in the marriage to no avail. I still love him very much. I love HIM, but can not tolerate the behaviors that hurt me so deeply in the marriage. Is there any one else on the site that feels they need to divorce the person they love with all thier hearts to save thier own and thier children's mental and spiritual health? What advice do you have for someone that loves a person so much but must leave because things have not gotten better? I know you will say counseling, I have already been. I mean how do you learn to love someone but be ok with not being together?
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