my husband and i have been separated now for almost a year. nothing has been done financially or legally. he is still supporting us (me and two boys). He is in the military and is set to retire in 2010. This is also the year that we will reach the 20 year mark in our marriage. according to the military we must be married 20 yrs with 20 years of service for him in order for me to receive military benefits. regardless i will get about half his retirement. my question is- is it worth dragging this out for another year and a half (aug 2010) or should i just go ahead and file while he is feeling generous? I am worried that if i wait till 2010 and the judge sees that he has been paying my way for 2 years that it might not look so good for me. I also worry that he will be less generous after 2 years and his guilt has worn off (he cheated). I am also holding on emotionally to him. Every time i check our account and he is out of town, i assume he is visiting her. it hurts every time. is medical worth all the pain and false hope? what do you think- file now or wait till 2010?
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