Anger and hate are common emotions especially if you have no control of the break up. Heck my EX left me for another man.... talk about being pissed off.

Just roll with it Andrew.. this too shall pas.

The feelings are normal, but you'll be glad later if you just let it go.

i am going to put a dangres qusetion here how do i get past it

Anger can be useful in this process--it can help you move forward, maybe take legal action to end the marriage, etc.

But I'm concerned when you say you want to do "real harm" to your ex and anyone she talks to. That is very unhealthy anger. Becoming violent or harassing her will only get you in legal trouble.

If you are really struggling with this, perhaps it's time to seek counseling so you can deal with your anger in a more productive way.

You have been physically violent towards your wife before and if I remember correctly you were hospitalized for a psychological issue shortly after she had you leave the house. Having anger towards your wife is normal during divorce, but not towards everyone she talks to. And if you are actually thinking of doing physical harm to anyone, seek immediate professional help.

thanks every one for the advise i am going throught the legal thing and i just want here to know that i am hurting and i want her to stop playing games with our child

If you are serious about wanting to hurt someone, then please, call someone and get some professional help! I know how angry and upset a person can get when going through this, however, to actually want to cause physical harm to someone scares me!
Please, call someone and get some help!

Hugs and peace!

Oh, wait, I just read your profile and you stated that you hit your wife and she threw you out!? Yep, that is what you deserve! There is NEVER any excuse to get physically violent with anyone! EVER! Sorry, no more sympathy here!

My ex, "bless his heart" also thought it was ok to hit me, he almost killed me and did kill my unborn daughter!

Nope, what you deserve is a DIVORCE!

Byebye now!

I agree with 4Queens! She should put a restraining order on you since you obviously have harmed her before. Now you want to harm others? YOU NEED HELP. Here are some numbers....use them:

http://dailystrength.org/help/crisis-resources

thats all good if i lived in the U.S.A

Maybe this link will help you:

http://www.community.gov.au/Internet/MFMC/community.nsf/pages/section?opendocument&Section=Anger%20Management

I am glad to see that you are attempting to own up to your mistakes. It takes a great deal of courage to admit that you had done wrong. Please try to remember though in your thoughts of anger what this may be doing to your child. Would you ever want someone to hit your child. Do you think she could ever do anything to merit such actions. When you resort to any type of violence you are teaching your child how to treat others and how others should treat your child.

It takes a lot of courage to reach out for help and I applaud you in your effort but you have to do more. You will never be able to take back the pain that you inflicted on your wife when you hit her but you can make sure that you never touch anyone out of pure rage and violence again.

Normal feels...you've been broken inside.

I think we all feel like this at times so it is normal. But if you find yourself uncontrollable of your anger and about about to do something, then call someone to talk to, or maybe get yourself a punching bag.

We want them to feel the hurt that they caused us, sure, but remember, wishing bad things on to people or "going after" someone verbalyl or phsycially, isnt gonig to yield you positive results in this situation, or in your life. It will just feed more negativity in to your life, that you dont want or need.

Try to breathe, stay strong and focus on yourself right now.

Some good advice here Andrew and may I also suggest that you seek professional assistance regarding your anger and depression issues. Violence will only seek violence and no one wins. Extra good luck...