Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hello, I have been reading the posts since last night. I am on the verge of separation. I am definitely moving out. We have 6 kids, we have a business together.
I am tired. He is mean, angry, aggressive, abusive. Many would say, oh thats a no brainer . . .but . . .the catch is . . .he knows it and he hates himself because of it. He just can't stop being angry. He is on 150M of zoloft and its not working. He is just mean and controling.
I love him, when he is nice he is REALLY nice. But everyday he gets angry at the littlest things. He has now esculated to slamming the laptop screen down on my hand. I call that abuse. I don't yell, ever, I hate loud and raised voices. I dont' fight ever. I just walk away and that makes him even more angry. I dont' dance with him. When he starts manipulating me I call him on it.
I just can't handle it anymore. I know he is aware of it and that makes me want to stay but me staying doesn't help him. And the brunt of his anger is at me. its all towards me.
I have decided to move out of the house for a month. A friend is going on vacation and I am going to go take care of her house. But I feel like he will take that has a loss of control and do things that are really stupid. He makes terrible decisions right now in his life. His life is completely out of control. I know he met with someone last week and I know he is going thru some "mommy issues" forgiving his abusive mom. She was mean and evil, manipulating. He has become his mother.
I just wanted to say hi and i hope i can walk thru this with you guys. I am humiliated to tell or talk to others. I am embarrased and feel like such a failure.
I am tired. He is mean, angry, aggressive, abusive. Many would say, oh thats a no brainer . . .but . . .the catch is . . .he knows it and he hates himself because of it. He just can't stop being angry. He is on 150M of zoloft and its not working. He is just mean and controling.
I love him, when he is nice he is REALLY nice. But everyday he gets angry at the littlest things. He has now esculated to slamming the laptop screen down on my hand. I call that abuse. I don't yell, ever, I hate loud and raised voices. I dont' fight ever. I just walk away and that makes him even more angry. I dont' dance with him. When he starts manipulating me I call him on it.
I just can't handle it anymore. I know he is aware of it and that makes me want to stay but me staying doesn't help him. And the brunt of his anger is at me. its all towards me.
I have decided to move out of the house for a month. A friend is going on vacation and I am going to go take care of her house. But I feel like he will take that has a loss of control and do things that are really stupid. He makes terrible decisions right now in his life. His life is completely out of control. I know he met with someone last week and I know he is going thru some "mommy issues" forgiving his abusive mom. She was mean and evil, manipulating. He has become his mother.
I just wanted to say hi and i hope i can walk thru this with you guys. I am humiliated to tell or talk to others. I am embarrased and feel like such a failure.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
The whole world loves him, but inside, he has such insecurity and my talents and abilities cause him to be intimidated by me and he gets angry at me. about freakin everything
It takes a courageous person to fight for a new and better life.
And you deserve a new and better life.
First of all you are not a failure. Your husband needs to deal with his pain so he will not pass it on to you. Seperating might help him make those decisions, but ultimately you have to do what it takes to have a happy healty relationship and if he does not get that help you need to move on at some point.
Abuse has NO EXCUSE. Set healty boundries and if he respects those and gets the help great then you two will have a long wonderful life together, but don't let the fact he was abused be an excuse for you to except his.
I feel your pain. It does help to be able to talk to understanding people that can relate. I hope you find the strength to deal with your husband and to find the healing you deserve.