it is going to be very difficult for a while. i'm guessing you didn't see this coming. he probably had more time to get used to the idea than you did. eventually you will be able to see that you are better off not being with someone who does not love you. who knows, maybe you will eventually find someone who will make you think "what did i ever see in that jackass." i know it's hard to be patient but that's just what you have to do.

because you can't believe that it's happening, your in denial. any contact with him will bring more rejection. honey, the only thing you can do is stop calling him. stop talking to him. and only you can do that. ive gone 95 days now, i still feel the pain, but i'm not giving in. i have to move on and so do you. (((HUGS))) be strong.

Ahhhh, sweety! Please try to refrain in contacting him... it will only hurt you more! The next time you find the urge call a girlfriend instead and do not talk about him when you do!
I cannot answer you question,, however, cause I have done the same thing ;-)
Hugs and we are all here for you!

try to think along the line of: what exactly does he give to you when he is with you? and then: can you live WITHOUT IT? maybe what you miss about him is just your own love for him? the feeling YOU felt towards him? but how can you ever feel the same again now, when he broke the heart that loved him so much? think of how fulfilling you could LOVE someone who deserves that kind of love? do not miss YOUR feelings - you will get them back with the right man again. save your heart for the one who worth it

pinkarh said it all. So did the stbx. It has been three months. He has focused on the negative and says he doesn't want to live in misery.

You don't want to live in misery either. Wish him well. Get MAD. He is jerk. Figure out what went wrong, so you don't repeat it in the next relationship.

Take the big step and resolve to move on. It is a hard journey, but getting started is half the battle. HUGS

You're cutting yourself short. Learn to love yourself first. You can love him but not be with him at the same time, but you have to love yourself first.

Trust me I have been there and one day you will look back at your begging him to come back and wish you never did it.

Don't humiliate yourself anymore. The more you beg the more he knows your hung up and the more he will play with your emotions.

thank you all soooo very much. You are absolutely right. I deserve to have soemone love me. I feel very humiliated....he seemed to act empowered by it. the hard part is that we have children together, so not seeing or talking to him is not an option.
today, i feel like such a fool. I wish I had someone to make me feel loved. I have my kids, but it is just not the same. I have this emptiness-You are all right. It wasn't that great. I don't know what I miss. I think I am just lonely. He drove me crazy and I hated the person I was when I was with him. I am feeling very desperate. What do you do about that?

One of the things a counselor had me do was when I got the feeling to call I set the timer for 10 minutes and got a piece of paper and put 2 columns. one column of what i think will happen if I call and one with the reality of what will happen when I call. it really helped

Just because 1 person rejects us, doesn't make us a reject. Remember the feeling you have now because you call him and next time you are tempted to call, remember the feeling you had last time you called.

It will get better, I promise.

Feelings run deep. The deeper they are the harder to let go. Been there done that. It will take time. I know I hate hearing and saying that because time is such a variable. You are strong and you will get through this. Now is your time to discover you again.

You don't want to let go because you are hurt and you love him. I was the same way at first. He is/was soooo stubborn. I cried, begged,and everything else for a few weeks. It will get better for you. You will start to heal and you will start to feel less of a need to "beg".