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An x who arranged a painful reveal so that I kicked him out. Is not 2 months later stepping up manipulative/controling behaviors and painful conversations. What's the motivation behind this. He's got his new girlfirend why bother with me?

I've resolved to never talk to him asside from talking about the kids. I don't want anything to do with the lying addict. I must admit this is so not like him. Maybe he's cracked.
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What are u asking?
deleted_user
deleted_user
upps should have proof read. I wanting to know what do you think the motivation is behind an x who continues to manipulate and cause pain? He's got what he wants...he's out, he's got his new life and he is free of most if not all of his responsibilities (except financial). Does this mean he's bitter for something he arranged to have happen? Does this mean he is still invested? Is he lashing out because he is realizing what this will cost him?
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Could be any number of reasons and any of the ones you mentioned.

When the conversation takes a turn that you do not like, simply say "you know this is getting no where, lets talk another time..Goodbye"!
deleted_user
deleted_user
perhaps he sees how strong you are and your doing ok, and he does not like that. keep doing what your doing eventually he'll get the message, your not going to let him ruin your world anymore. kudos to you. stay strong.
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IMO, he's lashing out because he would really have loved to have both worlds......see the moronic thread "Should I move in with my lover"

Since he obviously can't have his world both ways, he wants to trash the old one to pieces. Stay away before he escalates the assault. Rise above his guilt ridden abuse!
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31yr you are so right. That one makes sence. Bye bye looser.
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