Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost a year and I've lived with him for the last couple months. I absolutely regret moving in with him now. We are very much in love with each other and when things are going well that's very obvious to us and other people but since I moved in it just seems like our relationship has quickly deteriorated. And I just..I don't know I'm so confused. We have this HUGGGEEE communication problem. And I dont' know how to get past it or how to work on it. We've talked about it and both acknowlege that we have a communication problem but nothing has changed and its just getting worse. It seems like when I'm very unhappy with the relationship and with him (which would be now for the 100th time), that he's oblivious to it and thinks everything is going fine and vice versa..( a couple months ago I thought things were alot better and he was unhappy) And it's not like we don't talk about stuff. We talk about stuff ALOT. But nothing EVER gets resolved. Everytime he hurts my feelings or treats me unfairly or makes me feel like shit and I try to talk to him about it, it seems like it always gets turned around on me to somehow become my fault. I love him and want to be with him. He is a good person but somehow this communication thing has became a HUGE problem and I can't let alot of things go because I feel like they were never resolved and it bothers me inside but he never even thinks about any of it again. So...for the past week I've been thinking about just leaving him because I'm unhappy with the current situation and don't see a change. I just don't know what to do. Any suggestions???
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Marriages that are preceded by living together have a higher divorce rate than others.
Take Care and Best Wishes to you...
Yes, but this has nothing to do with the fact that people lived together. It has to do with the fact that people who choose to live together prior to marriage have personalities that facilitate the end of a marriage when things go wrong. Just like highly conservative people who choose not to live together prior to marriage have political views that keeps them together even when the marriage is horrible.
Living together brings in a significant amount of issues of trust, sharing, and compatibility. Religious people talk so much about how people living together have a higher divorce rate, but they don't talk about how many bad, incompatible, marriages were prevented by living together prior to marriage!
If your goal is to get married, it is more rational to avoid serial monogamy and to 'interview' as many prospective mates as possible.
When the 'madly in love' part wears off, what will be left?
In the mean time, you could take the opportunity to learn more about successful conflict resolution.