Why do you contact him if you know he isn't interested in you? You are just setting yourself up for more hurt. Don't do that, try to forget about him and things will get better. I wish I could forget about my wife but, we have a child together and can't. Good luck!

You have to restrain yourself from calling him. Maybe if you didnt call him so much, after time, he might call you to see how you are. Not saying it will happen, but the best thing to do is to not call him and work on other things with yourself and friends.

When me and the ex first split up, she was the first person I thought to call as we were like best friends. Many times I would go to call her, but end up hanging up.

While I ended up not talking to anyone then, it was better that she had no word from me at all. She wants to be without me, I have given her that wish.

she doesnt like that after I stopped responding... hurts ... but I have to do it for myself.

Stop it!

I do the same thing. My stbx keeps giving me mixed messages of what he wants. And I am the one who calls everyday, tries toget together to talk about our marraige and our kids. It's always me...I am really getting tired of it. As much as I want my family back together, I am starting feel like where is my pride as well, he's needs to start calling, but i do not think he will. What a prick!

It is called being impulsive, which is how I am too when I am having a lot of anxiety and have to call and call my husband. It relieves the anxiety for a second, but then it is back and even worse. You have to figure out a way to take down your level of anxiety and to be OK in the moment with yourself instead of feeling the need to call.

Aww hun I am the same, I'm verging on obssesive, at the moment me and him are still togetehr, but he's told me this won't be the case for much longer, and in the past when he split with me it made me even MORE clingy, I called him literally (no joke) about 3 times a day, but it always made me feel worse because I could tell that he just wanted to get off the phone. It's the same now, he doesn't want to talk to me but I call everyday and everytime after about 5 mins he makes his excuses and goes. It's awful and I don't know what advice to give you other than keep busy and keep at it, as in after a while of keeping busy the urge to call will subside. This may take a while but I promise you it will happen

This was posted a couple of days ago...I printed it out so I can read it everytime he make me feel rejected. I hope it works...I really need to stop wishing my family could come back together and I really need to stop calling him, he only makes me feel worse. I want to call him at this momment, but I am not going to...baby steps....

LET THEM GO....

"There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you, let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean, Hang Up the Phone!.
When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who left. The Bible says "They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us." (1 John 2:19)
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
LET THEM GO
It doesn't mean that they are a bad person; it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when peoples' part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something - I've got the gift of good-bye. Its the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop beggin people to stay.

LET THEM GO....

You deserve better than that and until you start demanding better, you will keep getting what you get. Try to be strong. You are a good person with a good heart.

I remember there was a gentleman that had the same post on 11/12/07. I found that post and pasted my reply here. Please change the gender so it's apporpiate for your situation.

You keep calling her for a couple of reasons.

1. Even though you may have people to talk to, it only feels better when you talk to her. It may be because you are used to talking to her or because she can answer questions you feel other people cannot

2. You have been married for years you get used to talking to someone even if you don't have much to say. Especially if you havent found a new love interest to talk to.
You are, like all of us, a junkie. You are addicted to this person and with them not being there you are going through withdrawl. I think with time the urges to call her will ease away.

Realize that if you want her back now or anytime in the future calling her only pushes her away. You don't have much to say to each other and she probably feels like she has more power and authority in the relationship. Unfortunately she doesn't respect you right now, believe me none of our stbx's do if they did they wouldn't treat us this way. Calling her only makes you look weaker. You will feel better and she will call you if you fall off of her radar and take the time you need to heal yourself.

Hope this helps I am in the exact same situation.