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When me and the ex first split up, she was the first person I thought to call as we were like best friends. Many times I would go to call her, but end up hanging up.
While I ended up not talking to anyone then, it was better that she had no word from me at all. She wants to be without me, I have given her that wish.
she doesnt like that after I stopped responding... hurts ... but I have to do it for myself.
LET THEM GO....
"There are people who can walk away from you. And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you, let them walk. I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean, Hang Up the Phone!.
When people can walk away from you, let them walk. Your destiny is never tied to anybody who left. The Bible says "They came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have continued with us." (1 John 2:19)
People leave you because they are not joined to you. And if they are not joined to you, you can't make them stay.
LET THEM GO
It doesn't mean that they are a bad person; it just means that their part in the story is over. And you've got to know when peoples' part in your story is over so that you don't keep trying to raise the dead. You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over. Let me tell you something - I've got the gift of good-bye. Its the tenth spiritual gift. I believe in good-bye. It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He'll give it to me. And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop beggin people to stay.
LET THEM GO....
You keep calling her for a couple of reasons.
1. Even though you may have people to talk to, it only feels better when you talk to her. It may be because you are used to talking to her or because she can answer questions you feel other people cannot
2. You have been married for years you get used to talking to someone even if you don't have much to say. Especially if you havent found a new love interest to talk to.
You are, like all of us, a junkie. You are addicted to this person and with them not being there you are going through withdrawl. I think with time the urges to call her will ease away.
Realize that if you want her back now or anytime in the future calling her only pushes her away. You don't have much to say to each other and she probably feels like she has more power and authority in the relationship. Unfortunately she doesn't respect you right now, believe me none of our stbx's do if they did they wouldn't treat us this way. Calling her only makes you look weaker. You will feel better and she will call you if you fall off of her radar and take the time you need to heal yourself.
Hope this helps I am in the exact same situation.