How can one person, destroy someone's life so much. I have loved my husband for 13 yrs and we are seperated, sold our house, he chases this other women, who I lower myself to and argue with. I have two children not by him who I need to be a mother to, and I am slipping deeper and deeper into this darkness where I feel like there is no hope and no light. People tell me I allowed him to hurt me and by staying married chasing him, it allows him to hurt me more. he lies to me and tells me he wants to stay married, and loves me, but then lastnight I find him at the bar where that girl is. A big ugly, ugly scene took place. I feel so disgusted and gross. How can one person hurt someone so much, who loved them so much.