I left my husband after 20 years last year. We still talk and he only lives about 10 miles from me. My problem is is that our marriage had fallen apart. I begged for several years to get some help or attempt to change a few things to which he refused to do so. So I left. It was litterally making me sick to stay. Now after a year of being apart, I'm happy, have friends, etc. He wallows in self pity. I want to remain friends but he makes it extremely difficult. One day he's nice and easy going and the next he's calling me, saying filthy things, etc. Blaming me for messing up his head. Crying how he can't take it anymore, etc. He has tried several times to "get me to come home" and when I tell him that it will never happen, he hits the roof and starts with the nasty mouth again. Last night on the phone, he yelled at me for not being a friend to him when he needed one. I told him, I'm not a mind reader, if you needed "a friend" you should have said something because all day you were sending me nasty text messages - I thought he was trying to start another arguement. He was crying, accusing me of messing up his mind and screwing up his life. He's about to be tossed out of his apartment because he's behind on the rent, he won't pay the bills until the start turning things off, and he always says that it's my fault because I've got him all confused. I can't handle this anymore. It's like he refuses to accept what happened and move on with his life, like he wants to punish me for the breakup and make me feel guilty for the predictament he's in (and the pitiful part is I do feel guilty to an extent). What should I do. I'm at my wits end. I can't take this anymore. He goes from one extreme to the other. Last night he treatened to blow his brains out because I messed his mind up. I know he would never do it, that was just a ploy to make me feel even worse, but I've had my fill. Please, any advice will be welcome. I simply just do not know what to do. HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!
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