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why??

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why after soo long and sooo much crap can i be soo nice and still wanna do anything for him??
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I think this is residual denial: if you can make them happy enough, then they will realize they are making a mistake. Real healing begins with acceptance--that no matter what you do, you cannot change their minds and you shouldn't be with someone who doesn't want to be you.

But I'm still struggling with this myself...
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My dear sister, you are in the same boat as me..
and I can't really say anything, because I to feel that way.

I think it's because we want so much to believe that it was all a bad dream. like all the bad things were never there.. like we will wake up and be happy and together again. now and forever.. if that makes sense. that's my guess anyway.. like I said, I'm the same as you.
so please don't think me insinuative
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During my separation I did it for my child. Unfortunately she moved with the stbx and I knew they needed help. Also, for the good of my child some kind of amicable relations have to take place. Also it seems a tiny piece of me will always care even if there is no love to be had anymore.
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at random times, I start worrying about him, and breaking the habit of taking care of him and loving him. we were married over 20+yrs. he told me he no longer loves me but I wasn't prepared and it's so hard at times. I KNOW I am better off but it is just hard not to worry about him and caring. it will take us time and working hard at not giving in to the wanting to "make it better" somehow.

take-care of you, first - it's what I'm learning now.
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