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do i start to like myself again,
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It's difficult, no doubt about that. But with time you do. You need to do something just for yourself at least once a week. I do a lot of long walks, by myself, in the evenings. It gives me time to look back on things and process them, but it also gives me the chance to be with myself. After a while, I began to like myself more each day. Hang in there.
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i wonder about this, too. i think that forgiving is very difficult and forgiving myself is going to be the hardest.
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Time.
You will find things that you believe in,focus on those.Rediscover who you are.
I witnessed 2 divorces,but never truly appreciated the emotional impact it has on a person.
Even when you want out it's a hell of a thing to face,frightening even.
You're stronger than you think,you'll see this in time.
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Get around people in real life. The affirmation you get from others will help build self esteem. Remember that divorce has a way of making people feel low....so get over that too.
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thank you all, it's all great advice.
Loved1
Loved1
Learning to Love Yourself: Book: Sharon Wegscheider-Cruse. Here I learned this...I keep a list of what I like about myself, one thing a day. Surely you can think of one thing today?
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Say nice things to the person you see in the mirror.

That helped me, and made me laugh sometimes because i would talk back....

....Put a smile on that face.

....Dont start with me now.

....See, your smiling already.

....Stop it.

....No.

....I could crack myself up, and then look around to make sure no one saw, even though I live alone....lol....okay, now DS is going to sign the papers to have me committed....lol.
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Do the things you like to do that put a smile on your face.

Listen to the music you like
Drive where you like
Do what you like
See what you like
Watch movies you like
etc,etc,etc

Eventually you will begin to notice yourself smile and laugh and you'll like seeing it.You'll start doing it more because it makes you happy to see yourself smile.
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thank you all, zoot, you made me chuckle. that was too funny, and totally sounds like something i would do. thanks I know what i gotta do, it's just doing it that i need to get to.
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Stop liking you stbx more than you like yourself. Everyone on this string has great advice.

Take a second and think of the one thing you want to do in life. Now work at it. I know my life dream and I neglected it for a long time. I don't work at it all day everyday but I have started and I feel good about that and myself.

I think the same can happen for you.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
you get a mirror, you look back at the point in time you left your parents house; the first time. and then go forward from there.
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do stuff FOR others. Volunteer. Help the homeless, work in an animal shelter.
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so what was that SNL thing, stuart smiley or whatever, god dangit i'm good enough.
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