I have two teenagers girl 17 and boy 19. I left my husband 14mths ago to be with someone else who is just perfect for me and I love him deeply. My ex husband and are now divorced and my two teenagers live with him. My ex swears that he does not have any form of conversation about me with the two kids. However since I left i have felt my kids pull further and further away from me. We were so close before I left and he worst thing about leaving my ex was leaving my children as I knew they both would not come with me and mynew partner. My daughter used to make time for me but the time we spent together got less and less. yes she does have school and friends but i thought we were close enough for her to fit me into her life. my son since I left has always been protective of his father and he too was see'ing me and now I feel i am nagging him to see me as well. Both kids tell me they love especially my son my daughter the closeness and hugs have slowly dwindled down to nothing I have even read on her blog howgreat er "daddy" is there is never any mention of her mummy. I wrote both my children a letter explaining that I love them both so much but i felt that I was becomming a burden to them and that i hated nagging them to spend time with them. I then told them that because I felt this way and I didnt want them see'ing me just because I was their mum and they felt they had to that I "want" them to see me not to just feel they have to because I am "mum" I then went on to say that I would now leave the contact up to them. They are both now not speaking to me and I dont know what to do. Do I leave them and let them get over things in time and hope that they will come back and talk to me or do I persist. All the web sites ve read say keep in contact but how do you do this when they dont really want to speak to you??? At this age they are both so busy and so into themselves I dont know what to do? Both my children want nothing to do with my new partner and the funny thing is now my kids arnt speaking to me my ex has decieded that he would like to be friends? But has asked I not use him to win the kids back. What do I do??
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