I am so sorry you're hurting. I am praying for the day it will be over but when reality strikes I am sure I will be right where you are. Stay strong and take care, Beth

It's normal. I think I cried for a minute or two when I got mine and I thought I was so far past that. It's kind of a shock to see it all in black and white. Hang in there!

I am sorry, I know after I went to the attorney and found out he went to his it made the pain even more intense. I wish I could tell you why it just keeps hurting, but I haven't found the answer. I guess because it is something we didn't think would happen to us.

I am so sorry you are feeling such pain. I have heard this was the 2nd most painful moment in the divorce process. I have yet to experience it. My heart goes out to you.

You have every right to grieve over the death of a marriage. You didn't want it to end like this. It doesn't sound like he cares at all, but you are a good person. Good people care alot about important things. Take the time to grieve. Then sign the paper & start a new phase in your life.
Dreams will be yours. There will be good things for you in your future! I pray your pain will pass soon. Take care.

My wife promised she wanted to work it out and we were seperated since may 20 th. just 2 nights ago she finally told me she did not so I know how it hurts. My thoughts r with you.

The "paper work" does in fact bring reality into focus, makes it very real. There will be other things along the way also. Today I was shopping for plants to brighten up the new house and saw a beautiful orchad that she would love to have, and immediately whipped out my cell phone to call her as in days of old. To say Hi Babe, there's an orchad here that you would just love do you want it? Of course I didn't but the habits of years will not change in months, it will take much longer.

rob, i can relate....flipping through a magazine tonite and i saw a coupon for mitchem deodarant...almost cut it out for him :-/ something so friggin silly....just triggers emotions.

May - it's early... your feelings are normal. Hell in my state i Have to be separated a year before ican file for divorce.... I've been separated over a year and hope to file soon...

but I'll tell you what... my anniversary was last month and his birthday was this month and I'm filing for divorce soon... and I've been a wreck and I've know about his affair for about 17 months... so for me.. while I have done a great deal of healing and moving on.... It is still hard and hurtful...

Be patient with yourself.

I've thought about signing the papers when the time comes. I am so afraid I will totally fall apart that day. I'm going to need a lot of family with me that day.

My prayers are with you. My papers will come in around Christmas, Merry Christmas, huh? Well, hang tough and know better days are coming your way. Take care.

I am so sorry. I am going down that road too. So sad. We are here for you.