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What to do?!

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After 8 months of looking for a job, I decided to take the leap and go to school full-time next January. I'm very excited about it---I absolutely LOVE school! I will also be able to be home for my children (when they get home from school) everyday. My 13 year old has recently had MUCH difficulty emotionally and socially. She's began cutting herself, hanging out with the wrong crowd, lying, being defiant, and is depressed. She's started on anti-depressants and seeing a counselor last week.

The deal is, this morning I FINALLY got a message from the temp agency saying that they have a job for me. UGH! I don't want it now! I need the money, but at what cost? I can get by with what I have. I'd rather be at home and available for my children and pursue my degree. I should call back the temp agency, but should I just tell them, "Not interested anymore"?

It sucks to turn down money, but it just doesn't feel right. AAAAARRRRRRGH!
deleted_user
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I think your gut is giving you a strong answer here...from what you wrote, it seems to me your gut is telling you to stick with your plan to return to school in January and being there for your children. You can always tell the temp agency that you've decided to return to school, but to please keep your information on file for the future.
:)
Seashells1
Seashells1
If it's a temp job, take it. You said you're not going back to school until January, so that gives you two months to earn some money.
deleted_user
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If it is a temp agency then maybe the job is only through to the time you start school. Might be worth checking into.
What are you going to school for. I will have an associates in accounting in December.
deleted_user
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I agree with bluebird. You may need to follow your dream on this one if you are able.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm going for my degree in psychology. Ironic, given the situation with my daughter!
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I am sorry for your dilema, my oldest daughter had a lot of emotional problems, I know it is so hard to know the right things to help them, it sounds like you are doing them. I don't know exactly what your financial situation is, but your children come first, if you can still be home when they need you there then I would do a job, if not I don't think it is worth it with all the other stressors in your life.
deleted_user
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That's the problem with taking a job until January. I probably wouldn't be home when my daughter got home from school. She can get into A LOT of trouble in the 2-3 hours before I get home from work!
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I put my son above any and all things. I too have enrolled in college, I've already started. I love being home for him, taking him to school, picking him up and being able to actually go in and speak to his teacher instead of email, notes and phone calls. I chose to go to school and my sons behavior has improved greatly because of the time I know have for him.

The reason I don't have a job is because I was "dismissed" due to missing allot of days because of his behavior. this is better for him.

I'm hoping you make the right decision for you and stick to it, never worry about what others think, they will only set you off into a spiral of confusion and uncertainty. Do what you feel is right and forget the rest.

Wishing you the best
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What would I do without you guys???? I soooo question my own judgement lately (thanks to the failed marriage). It helps to have feedback from people who've been there! Sometimes as a parent you think, "Am I being overprotective? Am I being irrational?" It has really brought things into focus with all of your input--THANKS!
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Money isn't everything. Look toward your future. Go with your highest instinct.
deleted_user
deleted_user
kbc with a temp agency you can call your own hours, work just part time. Then when your daughter gets home from school you can be there with her. Temp agencies are very flexible anymore and realize that single parents have more to answer for now a days. Talk to them there and tell them your situation. I am sure they will find an alternate solution for you.
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