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i have been dating this guy on and off for over 2 years, the problem is that he is 26 and still hangs out with his friends as if he was in high school and i can't stand his friends. When ever i hang out with him his friends come to. His friends are like his family and they are really close, i don;t mind him hanging out with his friends but i don;t want to be their when he does and his friends get mad if he doesn't hang out with them all the time. We are apart at the moment and I don;t know if i should start this up again or not. I'm scared that is friends are bad news and i;m scared that the guy i love might be like that to. what should i do i have talked to him time and time again and i just don;t know what to do. could it be that he is not like his friends but just likes them as friends
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If you've been dating off and on for 2 years, just cut him out and move on. If you try to force a choice between you and his friends, you'll be starting a grudge he'll hold.

Good luck
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I think you probably do know what to do and are avoiding the decision. IF...you are not more important than his friends are to him now....chances are you never will be. That doesn't mean you're not a wonderful person though. Think this through carefully before considering your next move.
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Agree with CoolhandS...Furthermore, if a girl made me choose between my friends and her, I'll go with my friends. Can't tell the full extent of your relationship, but a simple test to ask yourself if he's the right one is would you see this guy taking care of you if you had an accident and were paralyzed? I ask because that happened to a dude at my gym and ironically, his girlfriend decided to stick it out with him. People's character comes out in times of crises. It's not who we are inside, but what we do that shows our true character.
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Some times you can judge sombody by who they hang out with. But some times we have a mixer of friends of all kinds of different personalities. I elieve if all act the same, then maybe there is a side of him you don't know. Another note love some one for who they are, or get out. It's not our place to change some else
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I never liked my husband's friends...in the end he picked them and drinking over me *although I never made him choose*.

If he surrounds himself with toxic people, most likely he himself is a toxic person.

HOWEVER, if you don't like them for superficial reasons, you have to figure that out before dumping him completely.

It seems though that you probably think he is just like his friends but instead of realizing it and understanding it, you are trying to place the blame on his friends. Would he be completely different if *poof* his friends disappeared? Most likely not. He is who he is, and his friends build him up, which is why he surrounds himself with them.
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cut it off and move on. if it is meant to be, it will be. if not oh well. take the good memories to cherish.
deleted_user
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pretend this is your boot "P" and this is his a$$ "O". Goodbye
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you need a man who wants to be part of a relationship. Not a boy who wants to play with his friends
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