Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been married for almost 20 years, seperated from my wife the week before my 41st birthday, and our 20th anniversary, due to the fact that my son found a couple emails from another woman, and it "looked" to him like I was cheating. I have had these incidents in the past, never cheating just talking to other women about things I couldn't talk to my wife about due to our closed relationship.
I have been seperated for 5 months, at no time did I give my wife any inclination of wanting to get back and work on this. UNTIL, she told me she started dating, and was over me. Keep in mind, I live with her father, rent free as to be able to give her enough (more than enough) money so that the kids and her will not suffer financial heartache. When she started dating, I feared that I had lost her for good. I for the first time in 20 years opened my heart completely to her, and communicated everything in it. And her response was if I am alive, and you are alive there is always a chance we could get back together. I know I was emotionally shut down for those 20 years, and she said had I come to her when SHE was hurting, that we could have worked on it. I am confused. Try to read through the drama, see the facts, and advise me. I am not adverse to a good kick in the butt here either.
I have been seperated for 5 months, at no time did I give my wife any inclination of wanting to get back and work on this. UNTIL, she told me she started dating, and was over me. Keep in mind, I live with her father, rent free as to be able to give her enough (more than enough) money so that the kids and her will not suffer financial heartache. When she started dating, I feared that I had lost her for good. I for the first time in 20 years opened my heart completely to her, and communicated everything in it. And her response was if I am alive, and you are alive there is always a chance we could get back together. I know I was emotionally shut down for those 20 years, and she said had I come to her when SHE was hurting, that we could have worked on it. I am confused. Try to read through the drama, see the facts, and advise me. I am not adverse to a good kick in the butt here either.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
sometimes it takes something real bad.. a real wake up call to realize what we have.
You don't know what you've got til it's gone.
you can ask her to join you in counselling..that is if you are sincerely committed to change. Can you teach an old dog new tricks?... perhaps.
good luck mate.
Hey, you have two kids. It sounds like there's something still possible there. Go to therapy, get counseling, pull out all the stops before you go nuclear and divorce.