That is what is so tough. If the other person does not "pop" back into the picture, there will be something that reminds you that will come out of nowhere.

I think the truth is that it is going to happen no matter what, so there may come the day where you stop asking the "whys" about the inevitable and start asking the questions like "what can I do to move on and deal with this?".

I read your profile briefly. You going back to school is a cool idea for re-starting your life.

Hang in there. It is not easy, but you can do this.

Oh no...what happened?! I'm sorry to hear this!!!

I think it is just becouse he feels welcomed.If you don't want him back and he still shows up,perhaps you need to come up with new sets of signs and signals that it reads or creates feelings in him like this on your behalf, you can not mess with my life any more or you're not wanted here.maybe you are more attached to the idea of him coming back then him actualy wanting you back for real.If it is anoying to you set records streight.most of the time just saying simply no saves you alot of headache.

Pop him Back.

Or, i just don't know the full story.

no.....its not that I want him back (at this point b/c he's shown NO effort at wanting the relationship to work)....its that he's just contacting me to ask questions (my guess is about the divorce papers he'll be sending me)....its just the fact that i just HEARD from him, when I spent the last 3 wks not hearing from him and was starting to feel better about things now all these emotions come flooding back. its just irritating...i just want to MOVE ON.

Cos he is Selfish.

All about HIM now.. all about HIM always probably.

I put mine on a pedestal.. gave him everything.. and then some.. always all about him.. never about me.... then we had kids.. still all about HIM...

now.. no spousal for me.. but all about HIM.. glad I was smart in the divorce.. cos I knew it would be all about HIM after.

did I tell you the one about how I registered for my Master's program?... they went to withdraw the first $5K of my tuitition.. and HE had taken the money... yeah....
time to move on.. and make it about YOU now darling.

he is selfish.. you be selfish now.

they're Tests, as you passing?

larry, i'll let you know after i answer whatever question he has. I hope so, i just want to move on and away from the pain.

Mine does the same thing and I dont know how to regroup. Each time it gets a little bit easier and I feel a little more at peacebut it still throws me for a loop.

I know that this really doesnt answer your question but maybe it lets you know you are not alone.

sbm...yes, it does help (not that i wish this on anyone else!!!)...but at least I know i'm not crazy ;) thanks!

I was told that everytime he comes back into your life you will have to go through the grieving process again. Everytime it gets less intense and takes less time to go through but nevertheless you have to go through it. Sorry. Keep the faith and take care, Beth

I'm with you on that one. I was soo ready to go forward, I was happy, no longer confused blah blah blah. And BAM!!!! There he was, confusing me, telling me of his love and wanting to get back togather.

Now I'm right back where I was