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deleted_user
deleted_user
Ok my husband picked up the kids today and was suppose to bring them back tonight. Well he just called and said that the kids wanted to spend the night because they were having alot of fun. This upsets me so much. Now this is not the first time he has done this. See we don't have a custody order yet so whenever he gets the kids he can keep them if he wants. There is nothing I can do. Everytime he picks them up he does these things. He doesn't drop them off on time or decides to keep them overnight. I can't get a custody order right now because I have no money and legal aid said we have to be separated for 3 months before they can help. I tried to not let the kids go with him but just have him come here but he gets so angry with me and I feel so bad about it so I end up letting him take them. I don't know what to do.
LarryLDN
LarryLDN
don't know what to tell ya except if it's out of your control, you can only try not to let it get you too upset ?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sounds like an unfortunate situation right now. It is tough being without the kids but make the best of it, don't let it get you down and they will be back to love you like they always have!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Try talking to him and explaining to him how this behavior makes you feel. I hope he would listen to you and show you some kindness. How old are the kids?
campyone
campyone
Well, in my case the more I complained about it, the later he would be, so what I do now is tell him, what time are you planning ti bring the boy home? always anwserd with WHY? and I would say that well I was thinking about going to a movie or dinner with friends, It always seemed that after that he was on time or had a reason to bring him home early..
Don't let it get to U, your Kids LOVE U, I know that at time you might feel betrayed but your not they are just kids, But trust me they know who their MOM is.. Stay Strong and don't let him get your goat, the more you protest the fun things he will find to do with them.
Sorry I am really wordy tonite.
deleted_user
deleted_user
This sounds so familiar to me. We do have an order in place and he is still trying to manipulate the system. I try to be agreeable but with my anger issues, (i am angry at him right now, that is my stage) it is really hard. I know that no matter what he is their father but I get so tired of being MOM and him being Disney Dad.

Before we got our order he tried to pull this crap too . He would take them and not bring them home when he was supposed to . ONe night he took my littlest who is 3 and didnt bring him home when he was supposed to. He kept him overnight and that was really hard. I survived and I made a pact that he would never seperate them like that again,

Hang in there 3 months will fly by and you will get the help you need and deserve
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