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My attorney has suggested that I move into a bedroom upstairs instead of sleeping on the couch. My wife has said she doesn't want me sleeping in the bedrooms near the kids for fear that I will alienate my step kids from her.
My wife and I are currently in the sixth week of a living together separation in Virginia (1 year). I still want things to work but from what everyone on DS says, its not going to.
So, do I follow my attorney's advice and try to pressure her to settle (one must read my profile to understand how we got here) or do I respect my wife's wishes and continue to sleep on the couch.
My wife and I are currently in the sixth week of a living together separation in Virginia (1 year). I still want things to work but from what everyone on DS says, its not going to.
So, do I follow my attorney's advice and try to pressure her to settle (one must read my profile to understand how we got here) or do I respect my wife's wishes and continue to sleep on the couch.
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HE had the queen-size bed in a nice bedroom.
My lawyers told me to do the same thing. I reluctantly moved one of the kids in with her siblings at night and I slept on the bed. I had a door, a place to put my stuff. No lock.. so after finding him going thru my stuff I moved all my private papers, jewelery that he had not stolen, my camera and other possessions to my parents condo for safe-keeping.
This is your house too. I am sure your kids are not thrilled to see you on the couch. You have to set an example to your kids that you are an equal partner, with equal privilieges. Let them see their father as an adult member of the family, not some displaced person on the couch.
please move to a bedroom.
She may be trying to manipulate your settlement: I am sure she has a good lawyer. Just in case she is not, respect her paranoia about her kids and just say good night or good morning if you pass them, but if they want to communicate, bring it downstairs.